Never Good Enough

Discussion in 'Rants, Musings and Ideas' started by Brittless, Jun 23, 2016.

  1. Brittless

    Brittless Well-Known Member

    Today, I was awarded an extra scholarship for university. Something really exciting and I felt very proud of it because I have worked hard. And yet I call to tell my family and they make me feel completely and utterly worthless. Don't even acknowledge the achievement or support me just basically tell me my life is shit and what I'm doing equates to nothing. No congratulations. No matter what I do, what I work through, it's never good enough. I am never good enough. I hate myself.
     
  2. Rockclimbinggirl

    Rockclimbinggirl SF climber Staff Member Safety & Support

    Congrats. :D

    I am sorry that your family views you that way.
     
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  3. Brittless

    Brittless Well-Known Member

    Thanks Rockclimbinggirl. :)
     
  4. Witty_Sarcasm

    Witty_Sarcasm Writer, Musician, Fun Lover, Magic Maker

    That is awesome, congrats! You should be proud of something you worked hard for. I am sorry your family reacted negatively, but don't let them ruin your happiness over getting the scholarship.
     
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  5. Brian777

    Brian777 Safety and Support Forum Pro SF Supporter

    Hey Britt, CONGRATULATIONS!!!! On the scholarship :) I don't understand your families response, but don't let them define you, feel good about your achievement......you should.
    Brian
     
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  6. Brittless

    Brittless Well-Known Member

    Thank you witty. I will try my best.
     
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  7. Brittless

    Brittless Well-Known Member

    Thanks Brian :D true. they don't define me. Ill just have to remember that.
     
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  8. PearlLgrant

    PearlLgrant New Member

    congratulations
     
  9. Brittless

    Brittless Well-Known Member

    Thank you :)
     
  10. Inspire&Inquire

    Inspire&Inquire SF Supporter

    Must be hard for them to repress how proud of you they are. I guarantee you they are proud of you, they just don't show it. If I had a kid, and he or she had difficulties, I would encourage them, support them more. But if they were independent, strong willed, could achieve anything they set their mind to, I would probably behave the same way your parents are. It means they have high expectations for you, you're lucky. They don't support you because they know you don't need it.
     
  11. Brittless

    Brittless Well-Known Member

    .. No. They are not repressing anything. The fact that I am here on this site proves I have plenty of difficulties as of late and am seeking some type of support. Yes, I would like it to come from my family but no longer expect it. If they have high expectations of me, which I honestly don't think they care enough to have any expectations of me, then they should be happy to hear I am trying to meet them. And I sincerely hope you wouldn't act the same way as my family did.
     
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  12. Inspire&Inquire

    Inspire&Inquire SF Supporter

    Alright, you're right that was presumptuous of me, I don't know you or your family.
     
  13. Inspire&Inquire

    Inspire&Inquire SF Supporter

    At any rate, I think you ought to tell them how you feel, if for any reason, to know whether they really care about you.
     
  14. Brittless

    Brittless Well-Known Member

    You're right to an extent. Their lack of support has lead to me to be more independent but as I am vulnerable these days due to circumstances out of my control, leaves me wanting. I'm not sure I'm ready to get into an argument with them.
     
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  15. DrownedFishOnFire

    DrownedFishOnFire Quieta non movere

    How did you inform the family? Congratulations!
     
  16. Brittless

    Brittless Well-Known Member

    Through a phone call... And pretty straightfowardly. Thanks.
     
  17. Zeke171

    Zeke171 Active Member

    Nice job...my family is same way...
     
  18. Brittless

    Brittless Well-Known Member

    Thank you and i'm sorry to hear that. Can be tough.
     
  19. Zeke171

    Zeke171 Active Member

    Yes indeed...it seems my family just doesn't realize how depressed I am. "man-up,buckle down,its your own fault your depressed,blah-blah-blah"...like,I really want to feel suicidal every freakin' day.No compassion in my family, that's for sure.
     
  20. Brittless

    Brittless Well-Known Member

    I used to think being ignored or invisible or at least unheard has made me stronger and yes in some ways it has made me more independent and more of a free thinker and I respect that but when I am going through one of the most awful times in my life, I need that support.

    To be honest though I think some people just don't want to deal with it. Or don't know how to so they turn to that "Buckle up" mentality. It's very wrong though. Sorry you have to deal with this. I hope there is a doctor there you can see about your depression. I see that mental illness while still misunderstood is starting to be accepted and acknowledged more and more these days.