Discussion in 'Welcome' started by jj82, Jul 19, 2008.

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  1. jj82

    jj82 New Member

    Hi all. I really have no idea where to start, or what to say. I am 26, married for five years, have a daughter who is six months old. I have dealt with depression and anxiety since my preteen years. I was hospitalized for depression when I was 15.

    My dad was abusive to my mom and myself growing up ... both physically and emotionally. My husband was also physically abusive to me earlier in our relationship. He sought counseling and today is a completely changed man. Growing up with abuse, however, made abuse during arguments seem normal to me though. Now that abuse from others is removed from my life, I find myself being abusive to myself during hard times. Its hard for me to explain ... when my dad was abusive toward me, I felt like he at least cared enough to do SOMETHING. When he wasn't, I felt he had given up completely. Now, when my husband wants some time alone during an argument or something I feel like he doesn't care anything about me. Doesn't care enough to hurt me. So I do it for him. I know that is insane and makes no sense ...

    Anyway, to the point. Over the past few weeks, I have thought more and more about killing myself. I hate my job, but cannot quit or change positions for various reasons. I work 45 hours a week and its so hard when I get home to give attention to my husband, my daughter, the house, etc. I feel like I am failing at every part of my life. I want my daughter to have a good role model and a perfect mother. I don't feel that I can be either of those things. I feel like she would be better if I were gone, and it would be best if I died before she was old enough to realize what a mess I am and before she could miss me. I love her more than anything and am terrified she will end up like me.

    I have tried to seek counseling but every psychiatrist, psychologist, and counselor in town has no available appointment times for at least a month. I keep getting turned away. My work schedule is too prohibitive for me to travel out of town to seek help.

    I don't know where to turn. I am so lost and I cannot bear to hurt like this any longer.
  2. butterflies32

    butterflies32 Well-Known Member

    YOur life seems very distressing for you and I am gald you have found us. Welcome to SF.

    Here if you need to talk.

  3. gentlelady

    gentlelady Staff Alumni

    :welcome: to the forum. Get an appointment with a counselor regardless if you have to wait a month to get in. Then steps are in motion for you to receive help and hopefully bring some form of relief. Your daughter would not be better off without you no matter how you feel.
  4. Anime-Zodiac

    Anime-Zodiac Well-Known Member

    Welcome to the forums.
  5. sakuragirl

    sakuragirl Well-Known Member

  6. Petal

    Petal SF dreamer Staff Alumni SF Supporter

    welcome to the forum :hug:
  7. jj82

    jj82 New Member

    Thank you all for the welcome! I have made an appt., its just the waiting really sucks.
  8. *dilligaf*

    *dilligaf* Staff Alumni

    welcome to the forum
  9. liveinhope

    liveinhope Well-Known Member

    Hello and a warm welcome to SF i hope you find it helpful:smile:
  10. nagisa

    nagisa Chat & Forum Buddy Staff Alumni

    :welcome: :smile: :hug:
  11. LenaLunacy

    LenaLunacy Well-Known Member

    Welcome to the forum.
    I hope you find the support u need here.
    Take care, always around if you wanna talk :hug:
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