I joined because it seems like a great resource and I am very worried about a good IRL friend of mine with serious cancer who keeps talking about suicide. He started with vague threats and thoughts but is getting more specific, last night texted me to say he'd loaded his shotgun, then sat outside on the deck with it thinking about killing himself, then unloaded it and texted me. I take every mention of suicide seriously and respond immediately with a phone call or visit if possible (he lives about an hour away.) I communicate with him every day in one way or another. I have told him that if he worries me enough, I will not hesitate to call 911. But...I'm not sure that he actually has intent, or if his telling me these things is an attempt to verbalise how afraid and bad he feels. But either way I take every mention seriously. I have made a pact with him that he will talk to me before he does it for real. I have stressed to him that many suicide attempts are unsuccessful and could leave him in an even worse physical and mental state than presently. The cancer he has is probably terminal - within the next year possibly, within 5 years most likely. Obviously I can't tell him "things will get better" because they probably won't (as far as the cancer is concerned.) However, he can control how he responds and deals with it going forward. I have also let him know that his talk of suicide is very distressing to me, because I care a lot for him. I am the only person he talks to about this - so far he has been reluctant to see a counselor, a cancer support group, something, although I keep suggesting it - and although this may sound selfish, I am feeling a bit emotionally bludgeoned by this...it puts a lot on me. He has a pretty limited social circle. If it matters, we are platonic friends, not romantic. Maybe I'm off-base but I think he would benefit from having a wider support network. He's not a computer person really, so I doubt he'd ever join any forums or email lists. Anyhow. I didn't see a sub-forum here for people worried about friends or family specifically, thought I'd put this out here, and will probably lurk around for a while...thank you so much.