No job. No hope. Anyone else? Help.

Discussion in 'Mental Health Disorders' started by pogosticker, Nov 3, 2013.

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  1. pogosticker

    pogosticker Well-Known Member

    Anyone else in a similar situation?

    So I had a job as a support worker. I quit it for a different job and then ingot fired. Now I'm jobless, 22, only have experience working in care though I hated it and don't want to do it again. I applied for jobs but no luck. Only interview I got was with a coffee shop and apparently I don't even have the skills to make coffee.

    I have a thousand pounds worth of debt. No job any time soon. I have depression anyway and with this it's pushing me over the edge and I really just wanna die.

    In all honesty, lately I've not been looking for work so much.. Because it has been disheartening so far and I feel like nobody will want to hire me. And I'm probably on some sort of 'no hire' list (the place I got fired from is a big company that owns lots of businesses, which makes it worse)

    I feel like my life is screwed and I can't make it better.

    I'm supposed to be doing porn next week (yeah, I'm that desperate for money) and already I feel dirty from it.

    I don't know. Anyone else having issues being out of work?
     
  2. total eclipse

    total eclipse SF Friend Staff Alumni

    Lots of us are out of work hun just seems to be that way Doing porn not the way to go Go back and do the care job ok at least you can have respect for yourself doing that caring for others until you can find a better job hugs
     
  3. fieldzy202

    fieldzy202 New Member

    I know how you feel. I'm 31 and lost my fiancé to a brain tumour in January. All the treatment and travel wiped me out financially so I was ready to start over and get back on track but I broke my leg and haven't been able to work since. Being home alone after losing someone has been so hard and still is. I don't know what is keeping me going but it's wearing thin. I think my time has nearly run out
     
  4. Petal

    Petal SF dreamer Staff Alumni SF Supporter

    Hi there, I do know how you feel, I have been on disability for a few years,but I often wonder with the medications I am on would I actually be fit to work. How do you feel about planning to do porn? If its legal and you are legal age then maybe it can work out. Personally I would not do it though.
     
  5. Butterfly

    Butterfly Pokémon Master Staff Alumni SF Author SF Supporter

    I understand it is disheartening to be rejected for jobs, but, there are jobs out there. You have got to keep applying, if you keep up the job search then something is bound to come from it. I would not recommend going into porn, especially if you are already feeling dirty before doing it. That shows that you should not be doing it. Besides, there are so many risks from doing porn, especially if it's not legit. Please do not do it, you'll only regret it. I think I'd rather be out of pocket than do something that would haunt me for the rest of my life.
     
  6. pickwithaustin

    pickwithaustin Staff Alumni

    In life, the most important thing we have is ourselves. Later, if we have kids, that my change to them as being the most important, but until that time you are your most valuable asset. Don't compromise yourself for money. Is the old care job thing worse than doing porn? Go back and do that job and keep your focus on moving on to something else. Sometimes it takes a long time to land a job, you can't give up you have to keep on trying.
     
  7. loneland

    loneland Member

    I don't know what your training is, but jobs are difficult to come by no matter how you cut it. Just because you've been turned down doesn't mean no one will want to hire you - interviews can really be a crap shoot. The best approach is to be aggressive in a job search. Many people turn in, literally, hundreds of applications before hearing about anything, even months after applying. Don't give up! I don't want to simply be telling you things you already know, of course. Are there possible resources you have not yet taken advantage of? Have you looked on government job sites, nanny or tutor job sites, internships, career counseling, school programs, etc.? Personally, I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with porn. However, if you're already feeling bad about it, it's probably not the best thing for your emotional health. Take care of yourself first before anything else. Hope something turns up soon for you.
     
  8. themute

    themute Active Member

    Is there some kind of job aid place where you live? Do you think you could apply to the dole? I don't want to tell you what to do, but really, if you don't want to do porn than please, please don't do it. I think there are a lot of risks involved if it's not really high end, and porn should only be work that you do if really genuinely like to be in it. I can tell you'l regret it and I don't think the regret is worth the money in my opinion. I know that people can get jobs cleaning in hospitals, maybe try that? It would probably be crappy but I don't think you'd get regret from that job the way you would doing porn. Sorry it just really seems like you don't want to do it and I don't want you to do something like that if you don't want to. <3
     
  9. Kurouin

    Kurouin Member

    I'm just going to be straight up honest with you. Doing porn is not as bad as people make it out to be. It's just that: a Job. Its quality is rather subjective and in all honesty people who judge you just do so to masturbate their own ego and sense of self-worth. The world is changing these days, and although pornography in excess is not good for the health, masturbation and sex material is good for one's health in some ways. It's not so much the material as it is the person watching it. Besides, you have a job now and as long as you have the money to do the things you want I don't think its all that bad. Unless you're working in a really rundown place and with people who may have STDs or something, then I suggest you get out of there and do something else. Although I agree that porn is not the way too go if you don't want to do it. Some people like it and do so purely because they enjoy it. But if you aren't enjoying your job then doing a job you hate will just worsen your depression.

    I would say don't give up and keep trying. The Economy's still not doing so well and so it's no big deal if you are jobless. In fact, apparently a good amount of young people are homeless/jobless for at least a part of their lives. It's just a temporary condition and will change over time, but that all depends on the effort you put into it. I'll also tell you this though, that life is unfair no matter how hard you may try sometimes. Some people dedicate their entire lives to something only to end up nowhere, whereas some people may do absolutely nothing and get everything.

    Maybe my views on the world may be naive, but I've always tried to be the one to look to the left when people are told to look to the right.

    I hope this helps.
     
  10. emily83

    emily83 Well-Known Member

    me me me!. i'm 25 and find it hard even to think of a reason to get up in the morning
     
  11. BlackKitty

    BlackKitty Active Member

    I understand what you are going through. I got fired recently, and have been looking for a job that was better than my last one. Well it turns out I don't have the qualifications for the job I want. Now I've been offered a job that is just like my last job, and I don't know whether to accept it or not. I'm tired of working at places that I don't enjoy. :crushed:
    I keep having people say "Hang in there" too, and sometimes I don't know if I can.
     
  12. SillyOldBear

    SillyOldBear Teddy Bear Fanatic Staff Member Safety & Support

    Oh, I am so in the same boat. Got laid off in July. Am 61. No one wants an old person. Its horrible.
     
  13. yous

    yous Well-Known Member

    To be honest, everyone I know has a job. I don't know anyone who doesn't. Not bad paying jobs either. I'm the only one who is struggling. I apply to 10-20 a day, and get either ignored or rejected. I applied to agencies, and even lousy jobs, but they either end up temporary or laying me off. I am intelligent in my opinion. I have skills and a degree. I tried networking and meeting new people to help. I take classes and make an effort. Does this all pay off in the end? No one dang bit. I'm giving up.
     
  14. LostInMyDaydreams

    LostInMyDaydreams Well-Known Member

    Yes I can relate to this. I got fired from Wal-Mart cause of my absence and ability to work. My depression got pretty bad and I was unable to get myself out of bed sometimes. Haven't worked for over a year and now I'm working with my therapist about my depression and from the abuse I've been through with my ex boyfriend...who I was with for three and a half years. Most of the days that I've worked I found myself passing out in the break room. There's been many days where I have done this, other days I clocked in late and times where I clocked out early without telling anyone. Felt horrible deep down that I did this but it was so hard for me to get through the days sometimes. Ended up going into the bathroom and breaking down and crying. Anytime I left the bathroom, I re applied my make up and acted as if I was fine and put on a happy face and smiled. Deep down inside though, I was so unhappy and all I found myself wanting to do is sleep. Felt numb, depression, anxious and lost. Hopefully I'll be able to work again, but for the time being I'm still having a hard time with my life and deeply depressed. Therapy is getting better for me, but I still get days where I feel lost and lonely.
     
  15. TriumphRider

    TriumphRider Member

    I hear you, 30 years old with a high school diploma an at this point in time the only thing for the possibility of income is bullshit here an there thrown my way out of pity.

    The most promising, diving head first back into illegitimate things. I think I should have died a long time ago.
     
  16. HomerSimpson

    HomerSimpson Well-Known Member

    Was in and still am in the same boat fellows. Went back to school to get a college degree in hope of finding a good job, because I had lost my previous job. Well got my degree and spent a little over a year trying to find a job. Well finally found a job, which is nothing more than a dead end job working in a warehouse. Boy, was I wrong in thinking a college degree would get me a good job. Everyday I dread going to work because all I think is "I am meant for something better than this".

    Do not get me wrong fellows, I am appreciative of having a job, because I was where you guys are now and I know it sucks!
     
  17. Me 2.. I have tons of bills and I'm going to kill myself on Monday. I did the math.... Leaving my family with ssi death benefits is the best I can do for them. I was a firefighter paramedic for years but I got fired for no reason and they denied my unemployment benefits... Enough a enough.. I just need to figure out how I'm gonna do it.
     
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