I was homeschooled from age 12 to 17, and I chose to spend most of my time indoors by myself. Without realizing it, I missed out on a lot of social development during those years. I'm 19 now, and I've been going to college for the past two years. The first year was really hard for me, because I had absolutely no knowledge about interacting with people. I was totally clueless and had no idea how to talk to people or how to make friends. Over the past two years, I've developed a lot and learned how to be around people. I can talk with people and interact with them much easier now. I have a few classmates that I hang out with regularly (I don't see any of them outside of school, though) and we get along pretty well. But...I feel unappreciated. They don't seem to pay very much attention to me, and talk amongst each other far more than they talk to me. They ask each other questions like "How are you doing? How was your week? How is your project coming along?" But they never ask me questions like that...it's as if they don't care about my well-being. None of them ever express concern for me. Sometimes I'll hint at an anxiety or an insecurity I have, although I won't be blatant or obnoxious about it, but nobody will show any concern for me. There are a couple students in the class who are really obnoxious and annoying. In my group, we have in-jokes and special nicknames for the students who annoy us. Through those people, I have learned what makes a person annoying, and how to avoid acting that way - don't correct people all the time, don't state your opinion every five seconds, don't try to butt into other people's business, etc. I'm pretty sure I'm not one of the annoying kids who everyone hates, because I watch those people and do my best to avoid being like them. I'm always polite and nice to people and I always try to help people out if possible. It's rare when I make a joke and people don't laugh, so I guess I'm a pretty funny guy. I try to make sure that other people are comfortable and/or entertained, and so far I haven't detected any sort of vibe like I'm getting on people's nerves or anything. But still...nobody really looks at me unless I speak up, or asks me questions or talks to me unless I've initiated the conversation. They're all concerned with each other, and it seems like nobody really cares about me. How do I change this? How can I make these people from acquaintences into friends? Sometimes I still get that awkward feeling like I'm talking to a stranger, or like I have to be careful not to screw up. I want to lift that air of discomfort and be liked among my group. Is there anything I can do about it? The other thing that's getting me down is that no girls are ever interested in me. I'm really nice and polite to girls - not obnoxiously courteous or anything like that, I just treat them with respect and try to be friendly to them. I don't blatantly flirt with them or hit on them all the time. Occasionally I'll try to say something flattering and complimentary, and the girl's expression and body language will change and I can tell that it creeped them out a little. Today I spent a few minutes with one of my friends and a female friend of his. She told us a funny story where this really creepy guy was hitting on her, and it bothered her a lot. I saw parallels to my own situation, and started getting worried. It was an awkward thing to ask, but I really had to know, so I asked her, "Am I a creepy kind of guy that girls want to avoid?" She beat around the bush for a few moments while she tried to formulate a reply that didn't sound rude or insulting or anything, and then told me "You're not creepy, but you're kind of goofy. I don't think girls would be disgusted by you, but I don't think they'd want you, either. You're like...a sick puppy that a girl might feel sorry for." I'm afraid that this was her polite way of saying that I am a creepy guy who no girl would ever be interested in. I guess it doesn't matter how friendly and nice I am to girls, because I'm either really ugly-looking, really goofy-looking, or both. It makes me afraid that there's nothing that can be done to help my situation. I feel like I'm stuck this way, friendless and disgusting to women, and like I can never improve, because my appearance and social inexperience simply make me an awkward, creepy guy. This makes me really sad, and really depressed. I'm afraid that I'll never make friends and that no woman will ever want me. What can I do? ...Can anything be done, or am I hopeless?