Non-straights - get in here!

Discussion in 'Family, Friends and Relationships' started by The Scream, Jun 18, 2011.

  1. The Scream

    The Scream Well-Known Member

    0] what are you? [gay/bi/les/trans/pan/anything else?]
    1] would you rather have been straight?
    2] Have you lost friendships/family because of coming out?
    3] do you try to hide your sexual identity?
    4] ever experienced gay intolerance directly towards yourself?
    5] Do you/would you hold hands with your partner walking down the street?
    6] Do you socially try to isolate yourself from people you think might be straight to prevent homophobic/disappointed reactions?

    im curious :shelbi:

    and here's my answers......

    0] les
    1] yes, but im not, so...
    2] yes unfortunately i have
    3] no not anymore
    4] yes
    5] sometimes
    6] yes i do, and i really wish i wouldn't, but the possibility of disgusting someone fears me way too much...
     
  2. ZombiePringle

    ZombiePringle Forum Buddy and Antiquities Friend

    0] what are you? I am Bi.
    1] would you rather have been straight? nope. well somedays I kinda wonder that
    2] Have you lost friendships/family because of coming out? kinda... I've only come out to a few and have lost them all as friends. don't think it was because of my coming out though. nobody in my family knows and they never will.
    3] do you try to hide your sexual identity? Yes.
    4] ever experienced gay intolerance directly towards yourself? not directly at me. but have experienced a lot of gay intolerance from a lot of people I know
    5] Do you/would you hold hands with your partner walking down the street? depends on where I was... definitely some neighborhoods around here I wouldn't.
    6] Do you socially try to isolate yourself from people you think might be straight to prevent homophobic/disappointed reactions? Yes. All the time. or if I'm around some people I suspect to be homophobic I try to act as straight as I possibly can. but i typically avoid being around people.
     
  3. HakunaMatata

    HakunaMatata Well-Known Member


    1. Pansexual.
    2. O.0 No.
    3. I mentioned it once but they don't seem to believe me so i haven't bothered. No i haven't lost friends over it.
    4. Hell no.
    5. I think so.
    6. Of course!
    7. I never go out. I guess i would.
     
  4. BrinkOfExistence

    BrinkOfExistence Well-Known Member

    0] what are you? Pansexual

    1] would you rather have been straight? No, it's boring just being straight

    2] Have you lost friendships/family because of coming out? No, but only one friend knows.

    3] do you try to hide your sexual identity? Kind of, I'll won't mention it in a conversation but if someone asked me about it and they are being serious i'd tell them the truth.

    4] ever experienced gay intolerance directly towards yourself? No

    5] Do you/would you hold hands with your partner walking down the street? Yes i would.

    6] Do you socially try to isolate yourself from people you think might be straight to prevent homophobic/disappointed reactions? No
     
  5. Growing Pains

    Growing Pains Well-Known Member

    0] what are you? Genderqueer and pansexual
    1] would you rather have been straight? Some days, I think so. Most of the time, though, no.
    2] Have you lost friendships/family because of coming out? Yes. Because of my "gender identity". None of them give a rats butt about my sexuality.
    3] do you try to hide your sexual identity? No, but I don't mention it unless it comes up.
    4] ever experienced gay intolerance directly towards yourself? Yes.
    5] Do you/would you hold hands with your partner walking down the street? Yeah.
    6] Do you socially try to isolate yourself from people you think might be straight to prevent homophobic/disappointed reactions? No.
     
  6. cult logic

    cult logic Staff Alumni

    Gay.

    Don't really care.

    Not out.

    Rarely comes up.

    No.

    Sure.

    Nope.
     
  7. 1izombie

    1izombie Well-Known Member

    0] what are you? [gay/bi/les/trans/pan/anything else?]

    Gay
    1] would you rather have been straight?

    It would be easier to be straight as we live in a straight world.
    2] Have you lost friendships/family because of coming out?

    no i dont have many friends to begin with but no one cared that i was gay, even my family, when i cme out..
    3] do you try to hide your sexual identity?

    I have at times but i made a consciencous decision to no longer hide it in so much as i will be honest if anyone asks me.

    4] ever experienced gay intolerance directly towards yourself?

    no, not that i noticed.
    5] Do you/would you hold hands with your partner walking down the street?

    yes
    6] Do you socially try to isolate yourself from people you think might be straight to prevent homophobic/disappointed reactions?

    no... I could give a shit what people think of me because im gay.
     
  8. UsedToBe

    UsedToBe Well-Known Member

    what are you? [gay/bi/les/trans/pan/anything else?] I'm Bi
    1] would you rather have been straight? No, women are too pretty.
    2] Have you lost friendships/family because of coming out? Not yet, but my marriage ie falling apart.
    3] do you try to hide your sexual identity? No.
    4] ever experienced gay intolerance directly towards yourself? Yes, from my husband and a colleague.
    5] Do you/would you hold hands with your partner walking down the street? Yes.
    6] Do you socially try to isolate yourself from people you think might be straight to prevent homophobic/disappointed reactions? no.
     
  9. pppqp

    pppqp Well-Known Member

    0] what are you? Pan or lesbian ..??
    1] would you rather have been straight? No. I like being female, and some women are very attractive
    2] Have you lost friendships/family because of coming out? No
    3] do you try to hide your sexual identity? No
    4] ever experienced gay intolerance directly towards yourself? No
    5] Do you/would you hold hands with your partner walking down the street? No. Never had a partner
    6] Do you socially try to isolate yourself from people you think might be straight to prevent homophobic/disappointed reactions? No

    Awww.. all my answers are no. I've never been in a relationship before, and people seem to interpret my interest for women as admiration coz they all are older women.
     
  10. nolonger

    nolonger Well-Known Member

    gay

    no. if i could choose, i'd rather not be alive.

    i dont really have any friendships, and my family doesnt no.(only people at school know)

    im not all the outgoing etc so i wouldnt say im hiding it.

    no, but people still seem to say ignorant crap infront of me.

    i dont think so. it really depends. even if i was straight i seriously doubt i would hold a girls hand. im not a very public expression of intimacy person.

    no
     
  11. wheresmysheep

    wheresmysheep Staff Alumni

    0] im going to say pan but explain- im with a guy for 7years now. Ive left him 3times. I only find women attractive, but i love him and am comfortable with him relationshipwise and bedroom wise. Other men freak me out after i am with them. He doesnt. If not for him i would be seeking women.
    1] Id be less confused if i was. But im happy with who i am.
    2] my mum wasnt impressed. But thats her issue
    3] No even as a teen i didnt hide being atracted to women though i said i was "middle of the road" when asked
    4] Yes but mainly when i was in school.
    5] When i was seeing women i did hold hand with them i am all for equality and its natural imho love can not be unnatural.
    6] No i actively try and bring my straight friends into the gay world and also question why they dont consider trying a same sex relationship.

    Also. Pride is this saturday and i cannot wait :D
     
  12. SashaJade

    SashaJade Well-Known Member

    0] what are you? [gay/bi/les/trans/pan/anything else?] Trans and pan.
    1] would you rather have been straight? I'd rather not be trans but I dont give a shit about being pan.
    2] Have you lost friendships/family because of coming out? Oh yes. Sigh.
    3] do you try to hide your sexual identity? Not anymore.
    4] ever experienced gay intolerance directly towards yourself? Too many times.
    5] Do you/would you hold hands with your partner walking down the street? I have and will continue to do so.
    6] Do you socially try to isolate yourself from people you think might be straight to prevent homophobic/disappointed reactions? I'm socially isolated from everyone :D
     
  13. Stripe

    Stripe Well-Known Member

    0] what are you? Gay

    1] would you rather have been straight? Mostly yes

    2] Have you lost friendships/family because of coming out? Yes, but nobody that really mattered

    3] do you try to hide your sexual identity? Only when I am at work, around new people, out in public etc... Around friends I am out

    4] ever experienced gay intolerance directly towards yourself? Yes. Nothing that bad yet

    5] Do you/would you hold hands with your partner walking down the street? I have done. Depends where I am/how drunk I am

    6] Do you socially try to isolate yourself from people you think might be straight to prevent homophobic/disappointed reactions? I dont isolate myself. I just dont tell people that I am gay. Everyone assumes I am straight. I dont feel the need to make life more difficult by telling them they are mistaken. Sad world we live in i'snt it.
     
  14. morning rush

    morning rush Well-Known Member

    0] what are you? [gay/bi/les/trans/pan/anything else?]

    Pansexual

    1] would you rather have been straight?

    not really no

    2] Have you lost friendships/family because of coming out?

    no

    3] do you try to hide your sexual identity?

    huh, it doesn't really come up so

    4] ever experienced gay intolerance directly towards yourself?

    not really towards me but my mom thinks that gays and lesbians are mentally ill so....she doesn't believe I could like women as much as men

    5] Do you/would you hold hands with your partner walking down the street?

    yes

    6] Do you socially try to isolate yourself from people you think might be straight to prevent homophobic/disappointed reactions?

    no I isolate myself for other reasons...social phobias...nothing related to my sexual preference though
     
  15. Mr. E

    Mr. E Well-Known Member

    0] what are you? [gay/bi/les/trans/pan/anything else?]
    I identify as gay

    1] would you rather have been straight?
    In the first 19 years of my life I only had sexual and romantic relationships with women, denying the attraction that I had towards men. Being straight is definitely easier; a lot of heterosexual privilege out there. But at this point in my life, It's hard for me to say that I'd be anyone other than who I am. I'd just rather not be depressed

    2] Have you lost friendships/family because of coming out?
    Not yet, though I am not out to all of my family

    3] do you try to hide your sexual identity?
    I have not told my father's side of the family, which I want to change soon. Also, I am not out at my current place of employment. School, friends, and in public, however, I am completely out.

    4] ever experienced gay intolerance directly towards yourself?
    Not directly towards myself, but I do hear homophobic things all the time

    5] Do you/would you hold hands with your partner walking down the street?
    I've done so before. It helps being in a place that is generally more LGBT friendly. There are certainly some places I would never do this though.

    6] Do you socially try to isolate yourself from people you think might be straight to prevent homophobic/disappointed reactions?
    I socially isolate myself from all people really. I do shy away from people that I think may be intolerant, but unless they give me a reason to think they might hold some less than flattering attitudes, then I give them the benefit of the doubt
     
  16. ALoveLetterAway

    ALoveLetterAway Active Member

    0] what are you? [gay/bi/les/trans/pan/anything else?]
    Lesbian

    1] would you rather have been straight?
    Definitely not. I used to wish I was straight back in middle school, because of how much I was bullied.

    2] Have you lost friendships/family because of coming out?
    Not yet. I'm not out to my entire family, just who I live with. All of my friends are fine with it, though.

    3] do you try to hide your sexual identity?
    Not anymore. Some people think I do, though, since I look really feminine.

    4] ever experienced gay intolerance directly towards yourself?
    Sadly. Only in middle school, though.

    5] Do you/would you hold hands with your partner walking down the street?
    If I had one and they were okay with it, sure.

    6] Do you socially try to isolate yourself from people you think might be straight to prevent homophobic/disappointed reactions?
    I usually ignore negative reactions, so no. The people I hang out with are really accepting, though, so I rarely worry about it.
     
  17. #18

    #18 Well-Known Member

    0] what are you? [gay/bi/les/trans/pan/anything else?] Gay
    1] would you rather have been straight? That's one thing I wouldn't change about myself.
    2] Have you lost friendships/family because of coming out? Yes, those friendships were a lie anyway.
    3] do you try to hide your sexual identity? Sometimes
    4] ever experienced gay intolerance directly towards yourself? Yes
    5] Do you/would you hold hands with your partner walking down the street? Idk
    6] Do you socially try to isolate yourself from people you think might be straight to prevent homophobic/disappointed reactions? No
     
  18. Octsia

    Octsia Active Member

    0: Bi
    1: YES.
    2: A ton...
    3: No.
    4: Yes
    5: Maybe
    6: No
     
  19. Oloriel

    Oloriel Well-Known Member

    0] I am bisexual
    1] No. For years my ex treated the concept of me being with a woman as something I would only ever do as a sexy show for a man to watch, because of course who takes lesbian relationships seriously? He never entertained the idea that maybe, just maybe, I was actually bi, and I lied to myself for him. Now that I am free of him, I have been able to come to terms with my sexuality and really understand it, and I wouldn't change it for the world.
    2] No, luckily. Though several months after I came out to my mom, she mentioned that "maybe you're not straight" and I just stared at her...and said "I know I'm not." She asks me "well, then maybe you should come out!" I had to come out to my mom TWICE. She apparently didn't believe me the first time.
    3] Sometimes. Around my friends and those who really know me, I don't hide it. But I am afraid to acknowledge it around others. Some people have said that they don't believe bisexuality exists - that it's just someone who hasn't made up their mind about being straight or gay yet, or someone being experimental and doing it for attention. I am afraid of being labeled as such, so I try to conceal my sexuality from situations where that argument might come up.
    4] No - I have been very lucky to grow up in a reasonably accepting community.
    5] I'm in a straight relationship right now, so I guess that's not a very applicable question. ^^U But if I had a female partner...I would take her wherever she wanted to go and hold her hand all the way there. I may be afraid of my sexuality being known, but if I had love, I would want to show it off. There's no shame in that.
    6] No, but I socially isolate myself from everyone, so that isn't saying much. -.-

    Great questions! I often feel like I'm not really good enough to participate in the LGBT community... Even though there's a B in there, I sometimes worry that gays would look at me and think "oh, you're only *bi*"... Like I'm not gay enough, or something. -.- I realize that's silly. But I worry about it all the time! So I am glad I got to participate in this.
     
  20. Kikyo

    Kikyo Active Member

    0] what are you? pansexual, and a little bit genderqueer
    1] would you rather have been straight? Nah, I don't mind being this way.
    2] Have you lost friendships/family because of coming out? Not particularly, but that's because I only come out to people I know will accept it; if I know they're homophobic, like some of my family, then I don't tell them.
    3] do you try to hide your sexual identity? Yeah, from some people- mostly my family.
    4] ever experienced gay intolerance directly towards yourself? Not really.
    5] Do you/would you hold hands with your partner walking down the street? Sure.
    6] Do you socially try to isolate yourself from people you think might be straight to prevent homophobic/disappointed reactions? Not at all.