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The Scream

Well-Known Member
#1
0] what are you? [gay/bi/les/trans/pan/anything else?]
1] would you rather have been straight?
2] Have you lost friendships/family because of coming out?
3] do you try to hide your sexual identity?
4] ever experienced gay intolerance directly towards yourself?
5] Do you/would you hold hands with your partner walking down the street?
6] Do you socially try to isolate yourself from people you think might be straight to prevent homophobic/disappointed reactions?

im curious :shelbi:

and here's my answers......

0] les
1] yes, but im not, so...
2] yes unfortunately i have
3] no not anymore
4] yes
5] sometimes
6] yes i do, and i really wish i wouldn't, but the possibility of disgusting someone fears me way too much...
 

ZombiePringle

Forum Buddy and Antiquities Friend
#2
0] what are you? I am Bi.
1] would you rather have been straight? nope. well somedays I kinda wonder that
2] Have you lost friendships/family because of coming out? kinda... I've only come out to a few and have lost them all as friends. don't think it was because of my coming out though. nobody in my family knows and they never will.
3] do you try to hide your sexual identity? Yes.
4] ever experienced gay intolerance directly towards yourself? not directly at me. but have experienced a lot of gay intolerance from a lot of people I know
5] Do you/would you hold hands with your partner walking down the street? depends on where I was... definitely some neighborhoods around here I wouldn't.
6] Do you socially try to isolate yourself from people you think might be straight to prevent homophobic/disappointed reactions? Yes. All the time. or if I'm around some people I suspect to be homophobic I try to act as straight as I possibly can. but i typically avoid being around people.
 

HakunaMatata

Well-Known Member
#3

  1. Pansexual.
  2. O.0 No.
  3. I mentioned it once but they don't seem to believe me so i haven't bothered. No i haven't lost friends over it.
  4. Hell no.
  5. I think so.
  6. Of course!
  7. I never go out. I guess i would.
 

BrinkOfExistence

Well-Known Member
#4
0] what are you? Pansexual

1] would you rather have been straight? No, it's boring just being straight

2] Have you lost friendships/family because of coming out? No, but only one friend knows.

3] do you try to hide your sexual identity? Kind of, I'll won't mention it in a conversation but if someone asked me about it and they are being serious i'd tell them the truth.

4] ever experienced gay intolerance directly towards yourself? No

5] Do you/would you hold hands with your partner walking down the street? Yes i would.

6] Do you socially try to isolate yourself from people you think might be straight to prevent homophobic/disappointed reactions? No
 

Growing Pains

Well-Known Member
#5
0] what are you? Genderqueer and pansexual
1] would you rather have been straight? Some days, I think so. Most of the time, though, no.
2] Have you lost friendships/family because of coming out? Yes. Because of my "gender identity". None of them give a rats butt about my sexuality.
3] do you try to hide your sexual identity? No, but I don't mention it unless it comes up.
4] ever experienced gay intolerance directly towards yourself? Yes.
5] Do you/would you hold hands with your partner walking down the street? Yeah.
6] Do you socially try to isolate yourself from people you think might be straight to prevent homophobic/disappointed reactions? No.
 
#6
0] what are you? [gay/bi/les/trans/pan/anything else?]
Gay.

1] would you rather have been straight?
Don't really care.

2] Have you lost friendships/family because of coming out?
Not out.

3] do you try to hide your sexual identity?
Rarely comes up.

4] ever experienced gay intolerance directly towards yourself?
No.

5] Do you/would you hold hands with your partner walking down the street?
Sure.

6] Do you socially try to isolate yourself from people you think might be straight to prevent homophobic/disappointed reactions?
Nope.
 

1izombie

Well-Known Member
#7
0] what are you? [gay/bi/les/trans/pan/anything else?]

Gay
1] would you rather have been straight?

It would be easier to be straight as we live in a straight world.
2] Have you lost friendships/family because of coming out?

no i dont have many friends to begin with but no one cared that i was gay, even my family, when i cme out..
3] do you try to hide your sexual identity?

I have at times but i made a consciencous decision to no longer hide it in so much as i will be honest if anyone asks me.

4] ever experienced gay intolerance directly towards yourself?

no, not that i noticed.
5] Do you/would you hold hands with your partner walking down the street?

yes
6] Do you socially try to isolate yourself from people you think might be straight to prevent homophobic/disappointed reactions?

no... I could give a shit what people think of me because im gay.
 

UsedToBe

Well-Known Member
#8
what are you? [gay/bi/les/trans/pan/anything else?] I'm Bi
1] would you rather have been straight? No, women are too pretty.
2] Have you lost friendships/family because of coming out? Not yet, but my marriage ie falling apart.
3] do you try to hide your sexual identity? No.
4] ever experienced gay intolerance directly towards yourself? Yes, from my husband and a colleague.
5] Do you/would you hold hands with your partner walking down the street? Yes.
6] Do you socially try to isolate yourself from people you think might be straight to prevent homophobic/disappointed reactions? no.
 

pppqp

Well-Known Member
#9
0] what are you? Pan or lesbian ..??
1] would you rather have been straight? No. I like being female, and some women are very attractive
2] Have you lost friendships/family because of coming out? No
3] do you try to hide your sexual identity? No
4] ever experienced gay intolerance directly towards yourself? No
5] Do you/would you hold hands with your partner walking down the street? No. Never had a partner
6] Do you socially try to isolate yourself from people you think might be straight to prevent homophobic/disappointed reactions? No

Awww.. all my answers are no. I've never been in a relationship before, and people seem to interpret my interest for women as admiration coz they all are older women.
 

nolonger

Well-Known Member
#10
what are you? [gay/bi/les/trans/pan/anything else?]
gay

would you rather have been straight?
no. if i could choose, i'd rather not be alive.

Have you lost friendships/family because of coming out?
i dont really have any friendships, and my family doesnt no.(only people at school know)

do you try to hide your sexual identity?
im not all the outgoing etc so i wouldnt say im hiding it.

ever experienced gay intolerance directly towards yourself?
no, but people still seem to say ignorant crap infront of me.

Do you/would you hold hands with your partner walking down the street?
i dont think so. it really depends. even if i was straight i seriously doubt i would hold a girls hand. im not a very public expression of intimacy person.

Do you socially try to isolate yourself from people you think might be straight to prevent homophobic/disappointed reactions?
no
 
#11
0] im going to say pan but explain- im with a guy for 7years now. Ive left him 3times. I only find women attractive, but i love him and am comfortable with him relationshipwise and bedroom wise. Other men freak me out after i am with them. He doesnt. If not for him i would be seeking women.
1] Id be less confused if i was. But im happy with who i am.
2] my mum wasnt impressed. But thats her issue
3] No even as a teen i didnt hide being atracted to women though i said i was "middle of the road" when asked
4] Yes but mainly when i was in school.
5] When i was seeing women i did hold hand with them i am all for equality and its natural imho love can not be unnatural.
6] No i actively try and bring my straight friends into the gay world and also question why they dont consider trying a same sex relationship.

Also. Pride is this saturday and i cannot wait :D
 

SashaJade

Well-Known Member
#12
0] what are you? [gay/bi/les/trans/pan/anything else?] Trans and pan.
1] would you rather have been straight? I'd rather not be trans but I dont give a shit about being pan.
2] Have you lost friendships/family because of coming out? Oh yes. Sigh.
3] do you try to hide your sexual identity? Not anymore.
4] ever experienced gay intolerance directly towards yourself? Too many times.
5] Do you/would you hold hands with your partner walking down the street? I have and will continue to do so.
6] Do you socially try to isolate yourself from people you think might be straight to prevent homophobic/disappointed reactions? I'm socially isolated from everyone :D
 

Stripe

Well-Known Member
#13
0] what are you? Gay

1] would you rather have been straight? Mostly yes

2] Have you lost friendships/family because of coming out? Yes, but nobody that really mattered

3] do you try to hide your sexual identity? Only when I am at work, around new people, out in public etc... Around friends I am out

4] ever experienced gay intolerance directly towards yourself? Yes. Nothing that bad yet

5] Do you/would you hold hands with your partner walking down the street? I have done. Depends where I am/how drunk I am

6] Do you socially try to isolate yourself from people you think might be straight to prevent homophobic/disappointed reactions? I dont isolate myself. I just dont tell people that I am gay. Everyone assumes I am straight. I dont feel the need to make life more difficult by telling them they are mistaken. Sad world we live in i'snt it.
 

morning rush

Well-Known Member
#14
0] what are you? [gay/bi/les/trans/pan/anything else?]

Pansexual

1] would you rather have been straight?

not really no

2] Have you lost friendships/family because of coming out?

no

3] do you try to hide your sexual identity?

huh, it doesn't really come up so

4] ever experienced gay intolerance directly towards yourself?

not really towards me but my mom thinks that gays and lesbians are mentally ill so....she doesn't believe I could like women as much as men

5] Do you/would you hold hands with your partner walking down the street?

yes

6] Do you socially try to isolate yourself from people you think might be straight to prevent homophobic/disappointed reactions?

no I isolate myself for other reasons...social phobias...nothing related to my sexual preference though
 

Mr. E

Well-Known Member
#15
0] what are you? [gay/bi/les/trans/pan/anything else?]
I identify as gay

1] would you rather have been straight?
In the first 19 years of my life I only had sexual and romantic relationships with women, denying the attraction that I had towards men. Being straight is definitely easier; a lot of heterosexual privilege out there. But at this point in my life, It's hard for me to say that I'd be anyone other than who I am. I'd just rather not be depressed

2] Have you lost friendships/family because of coming out?
Not yet, though I am not out to all of my family

3] do you try to hide your sexual identity?
I have not told my father's side of the family, which I want to change soon. Also, I am not out at my current place of employment. School, friends, and in public, however, I am completely out.

4] ever experienced gay intolerance directly towards yourself?
Not directly towards myself, but I do hear homophobic things all the time

5] Do you/would you hold hands with your partner walking down the street?
I've done so before. It helps being in a place that is generally more LGBT friendly. There are certainly some places I would never do this though.

6] Do you socially try to isolate yourself from people you think might be straight to prevent homophobic/disappointed reactions?
I socially isolate myself from all people really. I do shy away from people that I think may be intolerant, but unless they give me a reason to think they might hold some less than flattering attitudes, then I give them the benefit of the doubt
 
#16
0] what are you? [gay/bi/les/trans/pan/anything else?]
Lesbian

1] would you rather have been straight?
Definitely not. I used to wish I was straight back in middle school, because of how much I was bullied.

2] Have you lost friendships/family because of coming out?
Not yet. I'm not out to my entire family, just who I live with. All of my friends are fine with it, though.

3] do you try to hide your sexual identity?
Not anymore. Some people think I do, though, since I look really feminine.

4] ever experienced gay intolerance directly towards yourself?
Sadly. Only in middle school, though.

5] Do you/would you hold hands with your partner walking down the street?
If I had one and they were okay with it, sure.

6] Do you socially try to isolate yourself from people you think might be straight to prevent homophobic/disappointed reactions?
I usually ignore negative reactions, so no. The people I hang out with are really accepting, though, so I rarely worry about it.
 

#18

Well-Known Member
#17
0] what are you? [gay/bi/les/trans/pan/anything else?] Gay
1] would you rather have been straight? That's one thing I wouldn't change about myself.
2] Have you lost friendships/family because of coming out? Yes, those friendships were a lie anyway.
3] do you try to hide your sexual identity? Sometimes
4] ever experienced gay intolerance directly towards yourself? Yes
5] Do you/would you hold hands with your partner walking down the street? Idk
6] Do you socially try to isolate yourself from people you think might be straight to prevent homophobic/disappointed reactions? No
 

Oloriel

Well-Known Member
#19
0] I am bisexual
1] No. For years my ex treated the concept of me being with a woman as something I would only ever do as a sexy show for a man to watch, because of course who takes lesbian relationships seriously? He never entertained the idea that maybe, just maybe, I was actually bi, and I lied to myself for him. Now that I am free of him, I have been able to come to terms with my sexuality and really understand it, and I wouldn't change it for the world.
2] No, luckily. Though several months after I came out to my mom, she mentioned that "maybe you're not straight" and I just stared at her...and said "I know I'm not." She asks me "well, then maybe you should come out!" I had to come out to my mom TWICE. She apparently didn't believe me the first time.
3] Sometimes. Around my friends and those who really know me, I don't hide it. But I am afraid to acknowledge it around others. Some people have said that they don't believe bisexuality exists - that it's just someone who hasn't made up their mind about being straight or gay yet, or someone being experimental and doing it for attention. I am afraid of being labeled as such, so I try to conceal my sexuality from situations where that argument might come up.
4] No - I have been very lucky to grow up in a reasonably accepting community.
5] I'm in a straight relationship right now, so I guess that's not a very applicable question. ^^U But if I had a female partner...I would take her wherever she wanted to go and hold her hand all the way there. I may be afraid of my sexuality being known, but if I had love, I would want to show it off. There's no shame in that.
6] No, but I socially isolate myself from everyone, so that isn't saying much. -.-

Great questions! I often feel like I'm not really good enough to participate in the LGBT community... Even though there's a B in there, I sometimes worry that gays would look at me and think "oh, you're only *bi*"... Like I'm not gay enough, or something. -.- I realize that's silly. But I worry about it all the time! So I am glad I got to participate in this.
 

Kikyo

Active Member
#20
0] what are you? pansexual, and a little bit genderqueer
1] would you rather have been straight? Nah, I don't mind being this way.
2] Have you lost friendships/family because of coming out? Not particularly, but that's because I only come out to people I know will accept it; if I know they're homophobic, like some of my family, then I don't tell them.
3] do you try to hide your sexual identity? Yeah, from some people- mostly my family.
4] ever experienced gay intolerance directly towards yourself? Not really.
5] Do you/would you hold hands with your partner walking down the street? Sure.
6] Do you socially try to isolate yourself from people you think might be straight to prevent homophobic/disappointed reactions? Not at all.
 

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