Not achieving anything

Discussion in 'Rants, Musings and Ideas' started by Hache, Jun 10, 2010.

  1. Hache

    Hache Well-Known Member

    Feel like a total failure in comparison to friends and family, no direction or success, can't see the path to any success.

    2nd year of uni results slowly coming in, got one today which was well below what I expected, massive let down and the consequences of it will be that I will end the year with 2:2 when everyone else is getting 2:1. Still waiting on 2 more results, 1 I haven't a clue, could be ok but I fear the worst, the other I might have actually failed, if that is the case I will have to go back in August and do a resit of the exam.

    The last 5 months have actually pulled me out of depression because of the social life I finally gained. Although now I am home for summer, no social life here. I've ran out of money anyway.

    I find myself blaming the system for why i'm an uninsipiring flunk.

    I'm also afraid of the future, I have achieved nothing so far like the family members around my age. Next year is my last year at university, so when that is over what then? Dont know what I want, office job or shop job does not appeal to me. I dont know what else there is, what am I aiming for? There is also the location problem, when I leave uni I wont have any friends anymore either, everyone will go back to their home towns and make their own lives. I'll have to start all over again, only getting in a 9 to 5 boring job and having no friends.

    I see all these great people, sadly the majority are famous, they are all talented and then I look at myself and think what the hell am I supposed to do or be, 4 good years wasted already.
  2. Prof.Bruttenholm

    Prof.Bruttenholm Well-Known Member

    I find friends overrated.

    But what is your major? I know even in the European universities you have majors, fields of studies of which you chose to specialize in.

    Tell me that and I will get back to you with in less than a day.

    As for me, I am a student of graphic design and fear for a future that has not happened yet.

    While people might find my actions on this forum odd, I help those who need help but still hate myself and consider killing myself.
  3. itmahanh

    itmahanh Senior Member & Antiquities Friend

    Hun you arent your family or friends. So please stop trying to make your life revolve around their expectations. You are an individual just like they are.

    Instead of living by their expectations, give yourself a break. Dont worry or think about the future right now. It's coming ready or not. Instead of working your way up to a position that everyone else thinks you should hold, or have, why not sit and really think about the things you like to do in life.

    As for all the famous people that you see, they have their skeletons too. Some of them worked so hard for where they are. Others had it handed to them. But they all have regrets and problems that plague them too.

    Please take some time for you. Think about things you like to do. So what if they are completely off the wall as to what others may expect of you. So many rich and famous got that way from finding a so simple thing to offer to others and they made a fabulous life in that. There's no saying that it cant be that way for you too. Dont sell yourself so short. You've kept plugging away this far with uncertainities and doubts. Now think about you and put some of those doubts to rest. :arms:
  4. Prinnctopher's Belt

    Prinnctopher's Belt Antiquities Friend SF Supporter

    I think you should volunteer for a cause you care about. It won't pay you, but it will give you professional connections, references, and a boost on your resume showing interest and ambition, instead of "went to school, did nothing". You could probably also get a recommendation out of it for a permanent position in a related field after graduation. Since you're not having as much a bout of depression as before, it shouldn't be very difficult to obtain. Volunteers are always in demand.
  5. Hache

    Hache Well-Known Member

    Thanks for the replys

    Thats a good idea, I had thought about it a month ago and did look into opportunities but non really stood out.

    The expectations might also be my own, i'm not sure:blink:

    I need a good grade for many reasons.

    Funny thing is last night my dads mate said to me "Make sure you come back with a first class after all that money this is costing"

    He's right, I'd take a 2:1 of course, but I'm likely to end up with a 2:2 which will hinder my future and with job shortages now and graduates struggling to find work and it become highly competitive i'm fucked.

    Looks like i'll end up in the kind of job and career I hate and dont want, but what do I want:blink:

    Business and Management, the units within the course are mandatory, i've not been able to select any first 2 years and I get to select 1 out of 4 for the final year :blink:

    I know my degree is so vague it leaves me with a lot of options I guess, but I dont want a mundane job which from my experience working in a business environment office and a store they are very mundane.
  6. Prof.Bruttenholm

    Prof.Bruttenholm Well-Known Member

    Business and Management?

    You can do anything, open your own business, maybe work in movies, you could handle finances or even help manage a movie.

    You can do alot more with that degree than anyone can ever tell you
  7. Hache

    Hache Well-Known Member

    Yep I've been told it's a good one for that.

    Based on all the placement opportunities the university have posted about most are targeted at specialised students, in marketing, finance or human resources. Not that my degree prevents me from going into those fields later.

    I need to find something I want to do, but i've had that situation for the last 5 years
  8. Viro

    Viro Well-Known Member

    I'm not sure what you mean by 2:1 and 2:2.

    Forgive my ignorance.
  9. Hache

    Hache Well-Known Member

    It is the British degree marking system.

    The ordering is as follows...

    1. First
    3. Third
  10. Prof.Bruttenholm

    Prof.Bruttenholm Well-Known Member

    I get it, kinda like the opposite of the American grading system.

    4.0 = A
    3.0 = B
    2.0 = C
    1.0 = D
    0.0 = F

    Of course, some colleges have a special grade. H = high marks/ honorable mention for that class.

    Anyhow, why don't you try making a list of at least ten things you'd enjoy as a job/career?

    Start with that, post it and then maybe we can give some more advice on the subject.
  11. Hache

    Hache Well-Known Member

    I dont know where to look for ideas of what I'd want. I've tried all the quizzes in the past to help you decide your career path. I've looked through the local jobs ads in the newspaper to see if anything sounds interesting.

    I think I will just have to accept a job is just for money to live, pay for kids, get a pension have a two week holiday in spain once a year and a 50inch 3DTV.
  12. Prof.Bruttenholm

    Prof.Bruttenholm Well-Known Member

    Not entirely. Consider career paths that aren't limited to what a sheet of paper tell you.
    What are some of your skills?
  13. Hache

    Hache Well-Known Member

    Not sure really. I dont think I have anything to write about.
  14. Sica

    Sica Well-Known Member

    Car Insurance Agent is a good stable job, if your just for the money