I get that my wife is very frustrated with my ups and downs. I know I put a lot on her and she must be exhausted from basically having another child to reassure all of the time. What irritates me beyond belief though is her recent tact of claiming that every time I tell her how much I hurt or what a loser I feel like that it is somehow an attack on her that is "not fair." i have been told that this is my problem to figure out and she has to be a mom and when I am "fixed" she will decide whether she wants to stay together. This is totally feeding a cycle of loneliness, guilt and low self-worth. Have I asked too much of her? I don't know if I can fix this without a support system. I sure can't play the cordial roommates game. I need to talk. She needs a break. Something is going to give. I am starting to think i need to address this problem alone in preparation for a breakup. I know she is a good person, but blaming me for being depressed is not making sense. This has been super cathartic. Thanks.