Discussion in 'Family, Friends and Relationships' started by stephcab25, Feb 9, 2011.

  1. stephcab25

    stephcab25 Active Member

    For the past several months, I've been dating a guy that's my dad's age.

    I'm 20.

    And I know that sounds really messed up, but whatever.

    I wont get into that.

    We've been working to make it the most healthy relationship possible.

    We're both in recovery.

    I deal with depression, anxiety, and ADHD.

    And he deals with bipolar disorder and is also clean and sober.

    We broke up around Christmas time because I wasnt sure if our relationship was real or if it was just due to me having some daddy-issues or something.

    But then we got back together.

    We are a really great fit and we compliment each other very well.

    Things were going well until this past weekend.

    He was sick and decided to quit smoking because he hadnt had a cigarette in two days due to being sick.

    So he was extra crabby.

    And while he was laying in bed, I told him I was going to go to the bookstore.

    I went to the bookstore and then got a call from a guy friend asking if I wanted to play percussion for him at a gig he had at a local treatment center.

    Well, I agreed without checking with him first.

    And when I told him I was going to do it, he said he wasnt mad.

    But then later he seemed mad.

    And he for some reason just hates this guy (who was the worship pastor at my church) and is super super jealous when it comes to me and guys.

    My friendship with this guy is 100000% innocent.

    But anyway.

    My boyfriend texted me and said that I was completely disloyal to our relationship, blah blah etc.

    I guess because I wasnt home paying him 100% attention while he was sick.

    Well, I admit I should have checked on how he was doing before agreeing to go play the show, but he SAID he was okay with it.

    And he always jumps on my for saying I'm okay when I'm not.

    So he turned around and did the same thing.

    So anyway.

    I guess we're through, now.

    All because of some stupid overreaction to nothing.

    I just dont know whether or not we're supposed to be together.

    I guess we'll be back together in time if it's supposed to happen.

    But I dunno.

    Just having mixed feelings.

    I love him, but I cant deal with being scrutinized and condemned for my every mistake.

    Relationships are crazy.

    I just needed to vent, I guess.

  2. total eclipse

    total eclipse SF Friend Staff Alumni

    YOu do not need to check in with him to make any decisions on what you want to do He is too possessive not a good trait at all. I think you can do better for your self and good for u for going out with a friend He has some trust issues that is his problem right. Hugs to you
  3. TBear

    TBear Antiquities Friend

    Sounds like your relationship is great as long as you are who he wants you to be.... I agree with total eclipse - he is too possessive!

    Take care of yourself,