Originally Posted by bumper
I don't think that is necessarily true. On the surface, they might THINK they are doing it in the 'best interest' of the suicidal person, but deep down they are only doing it for themselves. They offer "help" because they are afraid of losing that person. They are afraid of the hurt and guilt they might feel if that person commits suicide.
The people on here offer "help" because it makes them feel good about themselves. It makes them feel like they are making a difference (in their own lives).
But it's nothing more than a horrendously selfish and hurtful act.
Total agreement with Moon on that one. Pissed me right the hell off. That is far too much of a general statement. You can't presume to know the minds of another person, but I'll get back on subject of WHY I try to make people live, and in the course of that, I might end up pointing back up at that quote.
The reason I do what I do here, to help others, Is to make sure no one goes through the shit I went through. I spent the hardest three years of my life, physical and mental abuse constant, and my want to die always present alone. I had no one to talk too, no one to comfort me, and I didn't even think to turn to the internet for help. It left a permenant mark in my life, although at this point I can look back and be glad I made it past that.
That said, I don't help people to make myself feel better, (Although it does do that.) I help people so they dont have to be alone in a time when they need someone most. I would indeed feel guilty and hurt if that person killed themselves, but the first thing I think when someone is telling me they are going to go through with it isn't, "Oh no! I might be injured by this! Best stop them!"
The help I offer isn't to make myself feel better, or make me feel like I've done a good deed, (Although, again, it does give me that feeling.) But that isn't WHY I do it. I do it to help someone.
And calling that, a simple act of human kindness, and compassion, a "horrendously selfish and hurtful act" Has got to be one of the most infuriating things I have EVER heard someone say.
Hmm... I think I may have ranted a tad right there. Curses, lost control of my brain, and it ran over the keyboard with my fingers. Well, to make my final point ;
DON'T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS. Everyone is much much more than they appear, don't assume to know anything about their innerworkings, or their motivations.