For someone that doesn't have depression or cope by using self harm, it can be very scary. Especially for parents. When we don't know how to help our kids, we feel so powerless and sometimes (without thinking) we'll fall back on what we did with you guys when you were young. "Stop it or else".... it's not the best thing in the world for us to say, but sometimes it's all we know how to do. So maybe your mom is just really scared.