Opinions for minimizing the impact.

[Mightbehere]

I always try and keep this place positive, but I have made my decision and can't go on. I know many people say this but my time is up. My life has been a fucked up mess for so long and I have to go.

I have long term depression and anxiety and it hasn't been pleasant since this all started a long time ago since I was 16, I'm 24 now and my life has not gone anywhere I failed at everything and have depression and anxiety to deal with.

Well my question is how can I die with having the minimal impact on people, I don't want anyone to feel sad. I have written a note telling people its not there fault and that I want them to be happy and I have given proper instructions that I don't want an expensive funeral or one at all.

I don't want to kill myself in my house because it might taint it for my relatives so I was thinking my car would be best.

The reason why I don't want to immediately do it is because I have a few things to take care of so I will do it on Thursday.
So how would people go about making this more bearable for my relatives and people who might get sad.

 

[itmahanh]

The only way to achieve that is to stay safe and not do it on Thursday. No matter how positive an individual may be that no one will be hurt, or no one will care, there is no way to guarantee that. Someone somewhere cares for that individual and their suicide would devastate them. In your case you already know there are people that love you and would be hurt tremendously by this. The only suggestion I can make is to put yourself in their shoes and see what kind of things say your sibling could say to you to make their suicide easier on you. Almost promise there will be none that you could come up with. There is no easy way to do this.

 

[Stranger1]

Hello Mightbehere,
You need to go to the hospital and tell them you are in crisis, you have a plan and you have a suicide note(take it with you). You definitley need to go in patient to get your feelings and thoughts back in order.
Don't think you are hopeless, let them help you. You need to do this now, don't make excuses and put it off. You have the support of the people here at the forum. We will try to help by giving you suggestions and advice. Take Care and go to the hospital now!!!!!!!!!!!!~Joseph~

 

[TheWr0ngChild]

Hello Mightbehere,
You need to go to the hospital and tell them you are in crisis, you have a plan and you have a suicide note(take it with you). You definitley need to go in patient to get your feelings and thoughts back in order.
Don't think you are hopeless, let them help you. You need to do this now, don't make excuses and put it off. You have the support of the people here at the forum. We will try to help by giving you suggestions and advice. Take Care and go to the hospital now!!!!!!!!!!!!~Joseph~

It dosn't work like that in some counties, if you go to hospital here your often met with hostility and treated like a waste of time.

 

[Dave_N]

There is really no way to minimize the imapct that a suicide has on your relatives. Please don't give up and don't end your life on Thursday. :hug:

 

[Mightbehere]

That's true Tin_Woman besides there can't magically fix my life up and un-do the un-do-able, or give me a potion of youth.

 

[Stranger1]

Boy did I get shot down!!Good Bye!!

 

[effervescentpsyche]

If you care about minimizing the impact then definitely don't do it. No matter what you do it's going to kill the people you love on the inside. The only way to do it is make it look like an accident...which is nearly impossible to do. So on Thursday just hang out with someone or be with your family.

 

[bluegrey]

That's true Tin_Woman besides there can't magically fix my life up and un-do the un-do-able, or give me a potion of youth.

I wish I were twenty four again (I'm forty one)- and yes my life in my twenties was excruciatingly painful, the medications were crude and there wasn't a wonderful resource like the internet. Please stay alive, there are so many resources and so much medical advancement going on and you have your ( shitty, yes) youth/advantage of time.

Stranger1 your advice was sound. Even if you get treated like a waste of time and oxygen initially (never happened to me) it doesn't mean you will not be taken in. I've been trucked away by the cops to the puzzle factory just by saying a few of the magic words.

I agree with effervescentpsyche that the only way to minimize the pain of survivors is to make it look like an accident. There are many times I'm on my bicycle where the temptation is tantalizing to have an "accident" under the front of an approaching tractor trailer. I am not so sure it would be painlessly instantaneous, I would look like a giant lazagne and nooooooo-one who knows me would believe it was an accident.

 

[purplefizz]

Your loved ones will be sad, no matter what you do. Death is always sad. People who didn't even know you will probably be affected.

And about the hospital - yes, you do have life situations that they can't change. They may not even help. But you are suicidal and you have a plan to kill yourself. You are not thinking right. They may be able to protect you from your urges until you are safe again.

Thursday is still a few days away. You still have time to change your mind. This doesn't have to be final.

 

[Righteous]

Please don't do it yet. Think about something that u have 2 live 4. Bro, I'm good with working with people even though I'm suicidal, but u may have more 2 reasons 2 live than me.

 

[gentlelady]

There is no way to minimize the pain or effects a death, especially one by suicide, has on people. You are in a crisis situation and need to go where you can receive help. Our thinking becomes skewed by feelings at times like these and even what we think we are the most certain of is not necessarily the way we would think had our minds not been clouded with the pain felt. Please do not make any life altering decisions while in this mental state. Stay safe, take care, and seek help;. :hug: