I have a friend "D" who is going through a tough time with anxiety. Another friend "A" has invited both of us to go to a concert. I'm the intermediary between D and A. I have said yes and am delighted to have been asked - it will be a lovely evening! My friend D, with anxiety, has told me that she'd like to go "contingent on how she is feeling in a few days" (...just prior to the concert). This puts me in a tough spot with A, who invited us...A might want to offer the ticket to someone else if D cannot go, but leaving it to the last minute doesn't let A do that with much notice. I thinking "hedging" is a bit selfish and rude. What do others think of D's reply? Am I being too rigid in thinking she needs to say yes or no, and let A know either way sooner rather than later? Your thoughts please. And how should I handle it? Should I pass along D's (inconsiderate imo) reply, or push D to give a firm answer so A can pass offer the ticket to someone else? I dislike these Miss Manners issues...Please help me. Thanks.