Does anyone ever get that cringing fear of just the thought of being in a relationship with someone? I cannot, for the life of me, have a boyfriend without ending up deathly afraid of him, or the relationship itself. I have held myself back from dating for the reasons being one, some, or all of these: 1. He will physically hurt me. 2. He will break my heart. 3. He will sexually assault me. [the one I am most terrified of] No matter how much I may know him or trust him. It happens every time. But only when the possiblity of relationship happens. I have no problem having guy friends. Is there something I can do, or something you can just inspire me on, to help me lighten up? Or maybe tell me why I am this way? Also, when I was very little. 3 or 4, maybe. I was molested by my father. I don't feel like it has an effect on any of this. But could that have anything to with it? even though I'd rather take a risk, than not, this is upseting to me. As I feel like I'm missing out big time. And I know, I know. You're probably thinking "Just be happy you're even able to get a date." Well, I am. But what's the point if I let these emotions of horror control me? Does anyone have any advice for moi?