For the last couple of years I was in a very dark place in my life. I couldn't look after myself very well but luckily I had a girlfriend who was able and willing to support me. She basically paid for my life during that time. Now that I'm back on my feet, I really want to make sure I pay her back at least everything I owe her. She's not as bothered about this as I am, but I want to restore the proper balance of our relationship. My problem is that I don't know how much I should give as we didn't keep records! We have bank statements for some of it and can make rough guesses for other parts but it's not particularly accurate. No matter what figure I come up with, I keep thinking perhaps I should pay more? I really want to make this situation right and restore balance to our relationship, but how can when I can't come up with an accurate amount? Even when I think that's definitely enough, I wonder whether or not it is and feel tremendously guilty about possibly short-changing her. Frustrating situation.