People just...dont seem to like me

Discussion in 'Rants, Musings and Ideas' started by Ranxerox, Oct 15, 2009.

  1. Ranxerox

    Ranxerox Well-Known Member

    People have never really liked me. I never had any friends in primary school, i spent break times alone. Which was shit but what can you do? High school was just as lonely, and college is the same. I dont think ill ever know what people dont like about me, it really hurts having no one in your life, i think loneliness is one of the worst kinds of hell and i wouldnt wish it on anyone.
  2. Chargette

    Chargette Well-Known Member

    Are you in college now? What classes are you taking?
  3. suicider628

    suicider628 Well-Known Member

    Seem like you are thinking about it too much, don't let it get to you.

    I was like you, i understand ur loneliness, I didn't end up too well with it.

    I understand alot more now, so if you don't mind explain a little more, maybe i can help.
  4. SweetSurrender

    SweetSurrender Well-Known Member

    I hear you. Do you have any family that could help you with this situation, maybe some siblings you can tag along with for a while just to get you used to socialising again and get rid of that horrific lonliness feeling? Have you joined any extra-curricular stuff that will actually allow you to meet with other people who have similar values/beliefs/hobbies as you because maybe at your college there just isn't a broad enough range of ppl? I understand how bad lonliness feels but don't let your past predict your future, kids can be cruel but they generally grow out of it and actually become more understand, civil people. I don't keep in contact with any of my 'friends' from high school or college anymore.
    ps - i thought your picture 'i will kill you with my bear hands' was really funny!
  5. Ranxerox

    Ranxerox Well-Known Member

    I'm studying network administration. I try to talk to people but they just arent interested, i just seem to be an unlikable person. Maybe its a personality flaw that i cant seem to notice, but ill just have to keep trying and being alienated by those around me. Which is kak but im getting used to being alone, even though it still hurts.
  6. Aurora Gory Alice

    Aurora Gory Alice Well-Known Member

    Hey Ranxerox.
    One thing I've noticed, just from watching people, is that there are always going to be people who materialise towards a certain personality type and people who don't.

    I like the company of quiet shy geeky guys, but I prefer the company of louder more boisterous girls.

    I know it doesn't seem like it and I'm sure you've heard this before but if you are just yourself, you will find people who are like you and who appreciate you and your personality.
    By thinking too much about being liked you may subconciously be 'trying too hard' and nobody likes a try hard because you can spot them a mile off.
    I hate the old "just be yourself" line, but sometimes it's so true.

    What are the sorts of things you like, what do you enjoy, what are your hobbies and interests, what do you enoy talking about, what personality type do you have, what is your sense of humour like.
    Ask yourself all of these things and you might get a clearer picture about yourself and then a clearer picture about the sort of people you could get along with.
    e.g. if you're a sarcastic science nerd type guy ala sheldon from the big bang theory, hanging out with paris hilton is not going to work. Just an example! Probably a silly one but it helps to see what I mean. :)
  7. bubblin girl

    bubblin girl Well-Known Member

    people hate me 2 :'( i ha dno friend in school..i was even spend my lunch breack inside bathroom...and im now at college also so alone :'(
  8. shades

    shades Staff Alumni

    The only friends I had in junior high school and high school were kids from my neighborhood. Being a naturally shy, introverted individual, I would have found it very difficult to make friends with strangers. In college I was urged by my parents to join a fraternity because they could see that I had no friends (my childhood friends having gone away to school).

    If you are an introvert, others may feel uncomfortable talking with you. It's not that they don't like you, but rather may be that they just don't know what to say.

    I agree with Linda83...perhaps you should seek out those who have similar interests and personality traits. Maybe take a look at the clubs available on campus that you're interested in. Most importantly, don't get down on yourself about this because I don't believe it has anything to do with people disliking you.
  9. suicider628

    suicider628 Well-Known Member

    Not giving up! that's the spirit.

    Find someone similar to you, or tried to find out other's interest, having something in common is a big help.

    The first treatment for loneliness doesn't neccessary have to be a friend, if u have a family u can talk to about daily stuff, it helps alot, they are easy to talk to and take u for who u are already.

    Don't get discourage by rejection, i been rejected and hurts so many times that i build an immunity to it. But i tried again and again and now it's been better, i have a few friends and acquaintances i can talk to in school, i don't have to be hurt every time there is group works.
  10. I would say, try not to judge yourself by the standards of others. Its easy to make progress but then quickly get disillusioned if you focus too heavily on how many friends other people have (or how many you think they have, probably a lot less than the reality). Dont think about that, just look for what makes you happier now than you were before, and work toward that
  11. MourningAngel

    MourningAngel Well-Known Member

    most people don't like me either and until now i was alone, too, i can understand your pain, it's devastating but don't stop looking for poeple to talk to, they're not the obvious ones runnign around. you have to look for the hidden ones, it took me years to find these but it pays of, because they are good friends
    keep going, there's no one on this world who can't find friends, one day you'll find someone
    if you ever want to talk or vent at someone just give me call :hug:
  12. lonercarrot

    lonercarrot Well-Known Member

    I feel the same way. People just seem to automatically react to me... Maybe it’s the way I look or the way I sound, but it's like they immediately don't like me no matter how nice I try to be or how much effort I try to put into being social. It's gotten to the point where I just avoid people now...

    But then that gets me thinking.. I don’t want to resort to avoiding people and being alone all my life. But I don’t see another option.
  13. SAVE_ME

    SAVE_ME Well-Known Member

    Hi Ranxerox, I'm also in college atm, and I've had that problem my whole life too. I'd spend break times alone. Even now, nobody ever seems to want to know me and I think there's just this 'unlikeable' thing about me which I don't seem to notice. Oh well, but from one lonely person to another if you ever wanna just chat or w/e feel free to send me a message anytime.
  14. Mightbehere

    Mightbehere Well-Known Member

    Network administration probably won't attract many social people, maybe you should change courses?
  15. phoenix44

    phoenix44 Well-Known Member

    All I can say is that I can completely relate to what you're talking about. I made virtually no friends all throughout school; once I got lucky and had one from 3rd to 5th grade, but that was it. Now I'm in college and everyone there ignores me. It's like they look right through me or something, I don't know. In all my classes, I'm always off at the edge of the room while everyone else is happily chatting. I feel like there must be something terribly wrong with me.

    Well, I really hope things get better for you. It's good, at least, that you have the internet to talk about things like this with people who know where you're coming from. I honestly don't know what to say to make you feel better but if you want to talk feel free to leave me a PM.
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