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Perceived Ridicule

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InnerStrength

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Everywhere I go, I constantly percieve ridicule from those around me. I'm starting to think what's the point anymore. Nearly every waking minute is torture.
 

Esmeralda

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It's a common psychological problem. I know people who used to feel the same way, like everyone was staring at them, laughing at them, whispering about them, etc. It seems to have mostly dissipated after their adolescence.
 

Esmeralda

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It may not be "normal", but it does happen. Being beyond adolescence, I think you should either seek therapy or try to understand for yourself that this is not really happening,,,which, IMHO, it is not. People laugh, people look, people do some fucked up shit! That does NOT mean that they are directing any of this at you. I know that you probably understand this on an intellectual level, but you must try to understand that most people are more concerned about themselves than they are about anyone else. It may appear that way, but it is untrue. If you can ubderstand that, then you will get better.
 
#7
It's not that I am getting ridiculed, it's that I am perceiving ridicule. And peanut, I am beyond the adolescent stage, so I doubt it is a "normal," problem at this point.
I am 27 years old and everytime I go out and people look at me i think they are talking about me. Even on here when someone stops talking to me I feel as if they are pming someone to talk about me. I don't think age has anything to do with the paranoia..I think it all depends on the severity of one's paranoia.

Please don't give in. I hope things get better for you. :hug:
 

johnsmythe

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I used to have a problem like this, and still do to some degree. It was never really serious, like when I heard people talking or saw someone pointing I never really thought it was about me but for some reason whenever I heard someone laugh I would always cringe and think it was at me. Then i'd do a quick of myself to make sure there was nothing stuck to me or something like that. I only had a mild problem with that in that respect. For me it helps to just not look at anyone and to retreat into my head so that I'm not really listening to anything around me.

My paranoia problems are more I always feel that whenever I meet someone new (which isn't often) I immediately get the feeling they don't like me. to avoid it I just stopped talking to people. Probably not the best solution but certainly the easiest.
 

InnerStrength

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Are you 100% sure you are perceiving ridicule. If not then there may be a hint of paranoia involved.
No offense, but you're not getting what I'm trying to say. There is a difference between perceiving ridicule and receiving it. I can perceive something, but that doesn't make it real. I'm not even 50% percent sure at this point.
 

Anime-Zodiac

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No offense, but you're not getting what I'm trying to say. There is a difference between perceiving ridicule and receiving it. I can perceive something, but that doesn't make it real. I'm not even 50% percent sure at this point.
No offense but i'm well aware of that. Oh well.
I guess the main question is why do you think your perceiving ridicule.
 

Esmeralda

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By "on an intellectualy leve;", I meant that you should know that these people are not really ridiculing you. It is a matter of perception, but it is not reality, just a psychological state.
 

Feared.Desire

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It's a common psychological problem. I know people who used to feel the same way, like everyone was staring at them, laughing at them, whispering about them, etc. It seems to have mostly dissipated after their adolescence.
Oh. Well thats actually good to know, because I do feel that way. Psychological problem? um...this may be a stupid question but, is it a form of paranoia? or?
 

Esmeralda

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Exactly correct. It is basically a form of paranoia. Also, from what I understand, it can be a learned behavior, for example, if a parent was always worried someone was watching them, laughing at them, etc., then their children are more likely to have the same worries. Those I know that had this, once they realized that no-one was really ridiculing them (after being told by people whenever they started in about it) the paranoia actually slowly dissipated. Now they are normal, we--adjusted individuals.

Maybe if you just mentally tell yourself it's all in your head every time you start down that train of thought. you will eventually stop thinking that way by re-training your brain.

This is definitely a fixable issue and I think that eventually, you will stop having these thoughts :) Good luck!
 

InnerStrength

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Well, another instance of perceiving ridicule happened tonight. It was late 12:00 clock, and I was pulling into my driveway when another car about fifty-hundred feet away stopped when they saw my car approaching. When I pulled into my driveway, they continued driving. I mean, I don't know anyone outside of work (I sleep alot...), so I don't know who it could've been. Or why I think this necessarily pertains to me. Could've been a coincidence.

I'm going to update this thread with new situations. Maybe then, if it's right in front of me, I'll notice a pattern. It's more difficult because I'm not going off of words, just "signals" that I'm perceiving.
 
#16
I get the same thing. Its crazy!

Theres a concious part of me that knows damn well its just paranoia getting the better of me but I cant seem to stop feeling this way. Maybe its just some bad hangover from school but it feels like its getting worse with age, when im in the supermarket, or at work or even with my friends and I think thats the worse one of all.

Whenever I get left out of something it feels like a deeply perssonnel snub, and I never want to ask about it because it hurts my pride to much.

Its even worse because ive been around my crew when someones else has had the downer slapped on them, so when i get left out of something I imagine that all stuff I heard being said is now being said about me.
 
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