It is normal to try and improve, to become better than you are. It is in human nature to do so, i'm sure most will agree. Whether its learn something new, new language, new skill, maybe get a promotion at work, maybe get a better hair cut, or lose or gain a couple of pounds, its form doesn't really matter. This is something i struggle with, because firstly, logically, this would say that no individual is perfect. This would also mean that with the perpetual desire for self improvement, not neccessarily a pursuit thereof, but more an understanding of that nature, that its never possible to be perfect. Given that my self depreciation, and by extention self harm comes partly from feelings of inadequacy, as punishment for my failings in life, does this mean i will always self harm? Obviously not in itself, because it is as much to do with my nature as an individual, that self harm is a coping mechanism... i guess more what i am asking is how can someone cope with living their entire life inadequately, feeling always worse than they could or should be. How do you stop wanting to move forward, without giving up altogether.