I've been with a partner for 8 years. The las time we made love, about a year ago, it was terrible to me. Not that he was evil, but I didn't feel, he felt it etc... I just don't want to be touched. So he says he doesn't love me the same. He says he prefers to masturbate than use me. But I think it comes from here. We're not a very physical couple, more firends and intellectual, but here there's a problem. I think it comes from my rape when I was 20 and the abuses of my legal father. I wonder if it's physical, or if I don't want to get really attached to someone. I don't know how to talk to him. He's as shut as me. And it's something extremely painful. Even in therapy I can't. Physical emotional both? Other?