i'm somewhat stranded in a relationship and i don't know what to do at the moment. we met online and once for a few days in a physical place, but some time after she started keeping her distance from me. she told me she wanted me to be happy and felt inadequate and wanted me to find someone better. i didn't want to, but communication kept becoming more limited until it was somewhat nonexistent in february this year (we met in august last yers). because of her tempered dad she's not doing well at home (part of the reason we started talking in the first place), and in her online journal she talked about si and suicide frequently (si being another thing we have in common). before the void it was the plan that she moved out of her parents house and that i'd come join her whenever she was ready. but since she has gotten back with a guy she always refers to as her fiance. in the tumolt he's been the only reliable support she has been able to find. she wrote in her journal a while ago, after being criticized for her silence by a mutual friend, that she did not have the decency to talk to one fearing she'd hurt another. exactly how it was to be interpreted is open, but i assumed she meant she would not accept me because it would crush her fiance. but i may be wrong. as long as there's no communication i can't say anything for sure. two younger people i act as reserve parent for have expressed their worry that i might not be able to handle the silence for much longer. i sort of bet everything on her being the future, so my life here is standing pretty still with no future to look forward to here. not that any advice can be given though. i refuse to give up my loyalty to her before she explains what is going on. and because she told me she doesn't love her fiance, i will not stand by and let her marry into misery. but it's getting harder.