Pointlessness
- Thread starter Moriens Gigas
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I've been here a short while.
Like everywhere else, I do not belong. I'm not part of any established cliques here.
I did participate in a chat last night (it was about the vaccine rollout) but once I left, some members made glib comments about how some people (referring to me) can't accept a point of view that differs from theirs. There was no apparent precedent for that remark. Participating in chat is a bad idea for me anyway; I feel I am intruding and butting into others' conversations.
I am too different; I simply rub people the wrong way. I will likely delete my profile here soon.
Like everywhere else, I do not belong. I'm not part of any established cliques here.
I did participate in a chat last night (it was about the vaccine rollout) but once I left, some members made glib comments about how some people (referring to me) can't accept a point of view that differs from theirs. There was no apparent precedent for that remark. Participating in chat is a bad idea for me anyway; I feel I am intruding and butting into others' conversations.
I am too different; I simply rub people the wrong way. I will likely delete my profile here soon.
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Hi @Moriens Gigas - Just wanted to say, that you belong here just as much as I do. . . You have every "right," to fit in & belong: it can just take some time to 'acclimate,' (the climate) --& learn (how to) 'navigate,' the territory/or- "terrain!" I don't think i made a single post for about a year, when i signed up here (though I was a bit more "shell-shocked," then_). And as for the CLIQUES- or what may seem, or feel like establishments as such. Well, yes why that can be a bit off-putting, I'll admit. And if I'm perfectly honest, sometimes I wish it weren't so (unwelcoming, perhaps, to "new(er)~" members, such as your self!). . . What can I say? Spend a little /(or) a lot of time here, and it can happen that relationships can form and sort of click. But that said, often times they may appear to the outside eye, or perspective, a bit more "cohesive," or intimate (maybe that's the wrong word, or a poor word choice?); ...what i basically mean - is that they can look closer than they truly or really actually are. In other words, its more of a "surface," friend ship, at times (& sometimes not~.). . .but that--don't let that put or throw you off. Everybody's got their own personality, and "way!" This is what makes you special and unique in my opinion. We'd want you for you, or to be you (as in your-self) & no one else- Yes, it can take a minute to establish some connections in the beginning (& in my case, seemingly for a while - maybe more like a period of years, I don't really remember for sure?) but if you stick with it... provided that you want to of course - for if you feel that this environment is not one in which you'd choose to approve, or aspire to be (associated with; a part of~,) then that is another matter - to conside, altogether, I guess. And hey? By the way--that is okay, too! If you do not find that this place is the "right place," for you. It certainly isn't a fit for every one, and I've half considered or pondered the question my self on more than one occasion, (as to whether or not, 'I belong~?'). So, you can feel free to do what (it is) that you want to do. But in my opinion, as a guy who's been here for a while, and seen many come & go (myself included, for occasional / unintentional- or "planned," breaks. . ) it'd be worth your while to give it a little more time, to see if something can't change your mind. On the off chance that this would, or could be a good thing for you (of positive benefit?). And on the chat: I haven't a clue on that! 
if I've ever gone in there --(it's only been on accident, or mistake!) 
so, i'd be horrible to advise you on that, other than to say that some of the feedback I've heard given over the years is that it can be a certain kind of "challenge," or "challenging," (in it's own way) for some/others. Some-times... which makes sense if you just think of it from a pure communication point of view, and the rapid fire nature of comments and things like that. Also, it can probably tend to lend itself better to topics of more surface or lighter variety? I don't know, that's just a "guess," or hunch~ though! Good luck & best wishes. . . no matter what you decide- (to do). : )
if I've ever gone in there --(it's only been on accident, or mistake!) so, i'd be horrible to advise you on that, other than to say that some of the feedback I've heard given over the years is that it can be a certain kind of "challenge," or "challenging," (in it's own way) for some/others. Some-times... which makes sense if you just think of it from a pure communication point of view, and the rapid fire nature of comments and things like that. Also, it can probably tend to lend itself better to topics of more surface or lighter variety? I don't know, that's just a "guess," or hunch~ though! Good luck & best wishes. . . no matter what you decide- (to do). : )I'm so sorry that you had a bad experience in chat. If you ever have cause for concern again, please report it so it can be looked into. I totally understand how you feel about butting in, it's a problem I have with chat too (plus I can't type quick enough to keep up).
It's difficult when you first join in with any organisation. People who have been there for longer will undoubtedly have already made connections. It can take time to build up those relationships but generally people here are friendly and supportive. Keep interacting with others, reply to their posts and you'll soon get to know them.
Please don't give up on us. You deserve as much support as anyone else.
It's difficult when you first join in with any organisation. People who have been there for longer will undoubtedly have already made connections. It can take time to build up those relationships but generally people here are friendly and supportive. Keep interacting with others, reply to their posts and you'll soon get to know them.
Please don't give up on us. You deserve as much support as anyone else.
all members receive and give help as much as is needed. it doesn't matter if someone else needs help, we all have issues that bother us but they are all valid and all need support, yours as well. you are wanted here and probably irl, don't let depression lie to you. and if you left it would be a huge loss to the world. if you ever want to talk feel free to use my inbox.
mike...
mike...
So, just out of curiosity, what's your views on the vaccine rollout, if I may ask? It seems to be a hot topic in the real world. Who knows, maybe I would agree with you, but if not no big deal.
I think I joined around the same time as you, but I've been avoiding the chat rooms because I'm terrible at chatting, lol. Especially with more than one person! It's too confusing, especially if I'm not familiar with all the names. I really think I would only feel comfortable chatting with people I've known for a while.
I think I joined around the same time as you, but I've been avoiding the chat rooms because I'm terrible at chatting, lol. Especially with more than one person! It's too confusing, especially if I'm not familiar with all the names. I really think I would only feel comfortable chatting with people I've known for a while.
Hi,
I’ve been on this forum for nearly six years now, and I still admittedly cope with the despair and torment of an inescapable disconnect between me and the many cliques here as well as the outside world. It was disillusioning to stumble upon people of a relatively similar persuasion, if you will, only to acknowledge that my connection with them is fundamentally no different from that of mine and the rest of humanity. Yet, I’ve remained here as a spectator/specter for the few here who have impressed on me hope, be it directly or inadvertently.
In other words, your brief presence here has helped motivate me to continue signing on as of late if only to be privy to some of your thoughts, opinions, and your overall visceral style of expression that is both rousing and enthralling to me, however plaintive it may be. Perhaps that sounds just as ironic to you as it does to me. Nonetheless, I don’t wish to keep you here for reasons other than self-interest nor will I pretend otherwise.
That being said, I hope you will stay here and in this world longer.
I’ve been on this forum for nearly six years now, and I still admittedly cope with the despair and torment of an inescapable disconnect between me and the many cliques here as well as the outside world. It was disillusioning to stumble upon people of a relatively similar persuasion, if you will, only to acknowledge that my connection with them is fundamentally no different from that of mine and the rest of humanity. Yet, I’ve remained here as a spectator/specter for the few here who have impressed on me hope, be it directly or inadvertently.
In other words, your brief presence here has helped motivate me to continue signing on as of late if only to be privy to some of your thoughts, opinions, and your overall visceral style of expression that is both rousing and enthralling to me, however plaintive it may be. Perhaps that sounds just as ironic to you as it does to me. Nonetheless, I don’t wish to keep you here for reasons other than self-interest nor will I pretend otherwise.
That being said, I hope you will stay here and in this world longer.
Hi Moriens, imo those feelings of alienation, not belonging and disconnection show that you do belong here, even if you don't feel like it. I'm sure nearly everyone on here has experienced these feelings, and can empathize with you, so you already have a connection, objectively speaking. I guess the subjective feeling of connectedness gets stronger with the depth of mutual empathy and compassion, and I see these as qualities that can be developed through just listening and being listened to without judgement .
You are clearly a very analytical, deep and quite original thinker and if I may say so, it could be that some of the disconnect you feel is because people just have different thoughts from you on the causes and reasons for depression, although they can relate only too well to the pain and despair of it. I hope you stay a while longer because I think we all need to feel we belong to something bigger than ourselves, and I think with time you will start to find people here you are more in tune with intellectually as well as others who would enjoy debating you.
You are clearly a very analytical, deep and quite original thinker and if I may say so, it could be that some of the disconnect you feel is because people just have different thoughts from you on the causes and reasons for depression, although they can relate only too well to the pain and despair of it. I hope you stay a while longer because I think we all need to feel we belong to something bigger than ourselves, and I think with time you will start to find people here you are more in tune with intellectually as well as others who would enjoy debating you.
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