Positive thinking........

[john le huggy hippy]

The most destructive habit...............................Worry
The greatest Joy........................................Giving
The greatest loss.........................Loss of self-respect The most satisfying work........................Helping others

The ugliest personality trait......................Selfishness
The most endangered species..................Dedicated leaders

Our greatest natural resource........................Our youth

The greatest "shot in the arm"....................Encouragement
The greatest problem to overcome...........................Fear

The most effective sleeping pill..................Peace of mind

The most crippling failure disease......................Excuses
The most powerful force in life............................Love

The most dangerous pariah............................A gossiper

The world's most incredible computer..................The brain

The worst thing to be without.............................Hope

The deadliest weapon.................................The tongue

The two most power-filled words......................."I Can"

The greatest asset.......................................Faith

The most worthless emotion...........................Self-pity
The most beautiful attire...............................SMILE!
The most prized possession..........................Integrity

The most powerful channel of communication.............Prayer

The most contagious spirit........................Enthusiasm


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1. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.

2. Memorize your favorite poem.

3. Don't believe all you hear, don't spend all you have, or don't sleep all you want.

4. When you say, "I love you", mean it.

5. When you say, "I'm sorry", look the person in the eye.

6. Be engaged at least six months before you get married.

7. Believe in love at first sight.

8. Never laugh at anyone's dreams.

9. Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it's the only way to live life completely.

10. In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling.

11. Don't judge people by their relatives.

12. Talk slowly, but think quickly.

13. When someone asks you a question you don't want to answer, smile and ask, "Why do you want to know?"

14. Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.

15. Call a friend and tell them you were thinking about them.

16. Say "bless you" when you hear someone sneeze.

17. When you lose, don't lose the lesson.

18. Remember the three R's: Respect for self; Respect for others;
Responsibility for all your actions.

19. Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.

20. When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.

21. Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice.

22. Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their
conversational skills will be as important as any other.

23. Spend some time alone.

24. Open your arms to change, but don't let go of your values.

25. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.

26. Read more books and watch less TV.

27. Live a good, honorable life. Then when you get older and think back, you'll get to enjoy it a second time.

28. Trust in God, but lock your car.

29. A loving atmosphere in your home is so important. Do all you can to create a tranquil harmonious home.

30. In disagreements with loved ones, deal with the current situation. Don't bring up the past.

31. Read between the lines.

32. Share your knowledge. It's a way to achieve immortality.

33. Be gentle with the earth.

34. Pray. There's immeasurable power in it.

35. Never interrupt when you are being flattered.

36. Mind your own business.

37. Don't trust a man/woman who doesn't close his/her eyes when you kiss.

38. Once a year, go someplace you've never been before.

39. If you make a lot of money, put it to use helping others while you are living. That is wealth's greatest satisfaction.

40. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes the best thing for you.

41. Learn the rules, then break some for good reasons.

42. Remember that the best relationship is one where your love for each other is greater than your need for each other.

43. Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.

44. Remember that your character is your destiny.

45. Approach love and cooking with reckless abandon.

 

[john le huggy hippy]

I will be patient in steadily working toward my goal, remembering that all good comes in time.
I will hold on. I will be brave. I am almost there. I will never give up.
I have learned to treat myself gently because with a few exceptions, I am doing my best.
I will be more understanding of the needs of others when I am able to care for my own. I will resist anything that takes me off the chosen path of recovery.
Loving life increases my energy and passions.



Time does heal, and when I am going through a difficult patch I will remember I don't want to make it any worse!!.

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Today is the beginning of the rest of my life. It is a clean slate. I will begin it totally refreshed and just live it.
When I put my time to good use, I value myself and feel good.
If I expect recovery to be easy, I will become frustrated. The easy stuff doesn't teach us much what is difficult and challenging enhances my growth
I will be proud of my strengths and nurture them.
No one else can blame me and make me feel wrong unless I accept the accusations and choose to feel the guilt.
What I do today may have a profound impact on my life tomorrow.
I will be the best person I can be today.
A quiet and pleased mind absorbs beauty and grace naturally. I will relax, be calm and therefor be content.

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Whenever I face a hardship, feel anxious, nervous, and sad, I will embrace my pain and agony.
I know I can learn from my misery and pain and share the knowledge with others.
Remaining optimistic will help me experience joy.
I will go about my life doing what I believe is right and hold fast to my beliefs.
I appreciate and am grateful for all the help I get along the way as I try to stay on course.


I choose to make the best of what I have, I am brave, I will survive!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[john le huggy hippy]

This is a basic blure print that is used by disciplines within the statutory services.........



1. Maximise the things that make you feel good, and minimise the things that make you feel bad.

Some feel good factor include:

Making time for relaxation
Being able to express your feelings
Having achievable goals to aim for
Making time for the things you enjoy
Maintaining a healthy diet
Starting a sport or exercise you enjoy
Work you find rewarding
A comfortable balance between work and leisure
Time to yourself, to do the things that interest you
Time for friends and family
Some things to minimise:

Too much stress, at home or at work
Feelings of rage or frustration
Expecting too much of yourself and negative thoughts and feelings


2. Valuing yourself

Valuing yourself will help you to recognise the things in your life that you value and deserve and help you to build your life on a secure foundation. You are important and deserve to have a life where you feel happy and secure. So value yourself enough to know when to take action and make changes in your life and when to let go of problems that you cannot change or are not yours.



3. Recognising that you can change *

Recognise that change is part of life and that the future is a journey and that change is a part of all journeys. There are 3 conditions for fruitful change:

1. Understand the present - don't hide from reality but see the present clearly.

2. Do not be burdened by the past - the past cannot be changed. Do not allow it to weigh you down.

3. Accept the uncertainty of the future - much of the future is not under our control. We must accept uncertainty and learn how to face the future with confidence.





10 Basic Skills Useful for Gaining and Maintaining Emotional Wellbeing


There are 10 basic skills useful for gaining and maintaining a feeling of emotional wellbeing.

1. Time Management

Good time management means setting goals and planning to tackle the most important tasks first and not wasting time on low priority jobs or spending valuable time on things outside of our control or which we cannot change. Take time each day (10mins is all you need), to plan your day. A useful model of prioritising tasks is labelling each activity with an A, B, C or D.

A = Absolutely Essential
B = Better Done Today
C = Could Wait
D = Delegate



2. Facing the problem *

Facing difficulties is rarely as alarming in practice as it is in our imaginations, and avoiding them only perpetuates our difficulties. Avoidance is unproductive for 3 main reasons:

It can make the problem worse.

It creates new problems.

It interferes with your life.
Facing difficulties involves recognizing that they are there. Only then can you work out what the difficulty is and think about what to do next. Catching problems early means that they have less chance of growing into imaginary monsters. Most problems shrink in size when they are looked at directly.




3. Problem solving

When problem solving a good technique to use is the following 4 step system.

1. Define the Problem - What is the problem, when is it a problem, with whom, why, how is it a problem and what is the result of this problem?

2. Planning - consider possible solutions, write a list of pros and cons, make a decision and choose the most appropriate solution for the problem.

3. Implementation - Put the solution into practice, if you do not try, you will never know if you could be successful or whether you can achieve a reasonable solution.

4. Evaluation - evaluate the degree of success. Don't look for 100% perfectionism as it may not be possible. If you achieved something you have partially succeeded and you need to recognise that.




4. Treating yourself right *

In our society, people have tended to choose self-punishment over self-satisfaction, with the result that they often fail to provide for themselves the kind of encouraging environment that makes for constructive change and development. Rewards and treats work better than self-criticism. They provide an important source of pleasure, and help in solving problems and over-coming difficulties. They also make it easier to learn new skills.




5. Keeping things in perspective

There is always more than one way of seeing things. This means that although you may not be able to choose the facts you may be able to choose how you react to them, and help yourself feel better and act more effectively by looking at them with an open mind and being realistic.




6. Building self-confidence and self-esteem *

You can build up your self-confidence, even if you have lacked confidence since childhood.

The four basic insights are:



Confidence is not just one thing. Each of us lacks confidence in some areas of our life, and has confidence in other areas.


Apparently confident people around you are not as confident as you think.


We gain confidence from doing things


If you tell people you’re no good, they might believe it!

These 6 guiding strategies will help you to build up your self-confidence:



Practice


Behave as if you are more confident than you feel


Be flexible in your behaviour


Learn from your mistakes.


Silence the voice of self-blame, and speak encouragingly to yourself


Be kind to yourself

The 5 strategies will help you build your self-esteem:



Attack those prejudices which lead you to undervalue yourself.


Stifle the inner critic.


Bury the judge within you that applies double standards: an unfairly strict you and a generous standard to others you.


Do the best you can, but don't berate yourself for not being perfect.


Spend time with people who make you feel good.




7. Learning to relax *



The techniques of relaxation can be learned.


Practicing relaxation will give you more energy; decrease anxiety and irritability; reduce pains to tense muscles, such as neckache, backache, and headache.


Learning to relax is: an attitude; a physical skill; a habit; and a restorative.


Learning to Relax involves four steps:


Preparation A regular time and place for daily practice is needed until you become competent.


Practice The basic method involves first tensing each muscle group and then letting go.


Application Once you are skilled in the basic method, you can shorten the daily relaxation period; and carry out mini relaxations throughout the day.


Extension Make relaxation a part of your way of life by extending it to include relaxing and recreational activities.

8. Expressing your feelings

Expressing our feelings openly promotes a sense of wellbeing and freedom from tension. It helps us to recover from hurtful experiences, and also helps other people to understand what is going on inside us. There are times when displays of emotion are not helpful, but hiding or holding back our feelings, can cause tensions that affect our physical and mental health.

9. Diet and Exercise

The food you eat can play an important part in the way you feel, physically and mentally. Too much sugar, coffee or salt can cause tension and irritability, and alcohol is a depressant, even though it may appear to relax you initially. For general wellbeing the only secret is a proper balanced diet. See your GP or a nutritionist for more information.

Regular exercise is good for us in many ways: it increases our confidence and self-esteem; it stimulates "feel good" chemicals in our bodies; it provides an outlet for tension an frustration; it relieves anxiety; helps us relax; helps us sleep better and helps to prevent physical illness such as heart disease and osteoporosis. Choose a sport or exercise you enjoy. Things like cycling, walking, aerobics and dancing tend to give you more a feeling of release than more strenuous activities such as weightlifting and push-ups. If you find it hard to get motivated try something with other people such as tennis, football or salsa dancing. Please note that when undertaking an exercise program you should consult with your GP.



10. Learning to say NO

Learning to say no in an assertive and tactful way is a difficult but important skill to learn. Remind yourself now and then that:

You have the right to say no without feeling guilty
Others have the right to say no to you
Saying yes when you really mean no may reduce your feelings of self-worth
It's better to say no at the time than to let somebody down later
Saying yes to extra work or obligations might cause you stress
Taking on too much might lower you standard of work or mean that the people important in your life don't get their due attention
It might not be such a big deal to the other person to get a no response
Be respected and respecting yourself is more important than being liked

 

[seeking-solitude]

hey john,

Im all for positive thinking and they were some great motivational messages thanks for those

Take care,

Paul.