The girl I like, her birthday is at the end of the month. I haven't told her I like her but we go out on dates. I haven't kissed her yet either. I really like her, but I just want to let it happen, not some lame "do you like me" middle school moment. Don't get me wrong, I want to find out soon, but if I say I want to be your boy friend it will scare her off. I like her a lot actually. I think she likes me too, but there is always that we are just friends bullshit there. She flirts, she's always happy to see me or if I call her. I have a blast when we hang out and I think she does too, but there are a few things against me. 1. I am the first foreigner friend she has ever had. Koreans do date foreigners but its sort of looked down upon by other Koreans. They are often stigmatized in public for it. 2. I am over weight. I don't feel like I am as disgustingly fat as I once was 260 from 370, I am still a big dude, in a world where most Korean guys are a full 100lbs smaller than me and wear jeans I couldn't wear in middle school. 3. I haven't had much luck in the lady department in...... well.... ever. As soon as I say I like a girl they either, freak out, say we are just friends, or drop off the face of the earth. So I know I shouldn't bank everything on this girl. I just haven't felt this way in a long time. I feel compelled to smile when I see her. I love the way she scrunches her nose when she is thinking about something (often the English/Korean translation) She is very sweet and kind to me. She has the singing voice of an angel. She has been very excited to tell her friends and family about me. I just want to kiss her. I want to take her to picnics, walks and just see her smile. I feel a sweet pain (the best way to describe it) when she crosses my mind. I find her adorable and irresistible. So ANYWAY Her birthday is coming up on August 30th. She said she doesn't want anything and she has no plans for her birthday. To me that is womanese for hey dummy do something special and sweet. I was thinking flowers, candy, and a nice letter, possibly a stuffed bear; they love cutsey stuff here one of the charms of dating in Asia; but perhaps that is a bit too cliche. Should I say I like her BEFORE i give her that or use that as my "suprise I like you" Guhh I am 26 and I feel like I am in middle school. Ladies and gentlemen, help a hopeless romantic out.