Psychiatric referral, UK

[Innocent Forever]

It tells me that it's usually meant to be a 40 minute trip but can be up to an hour and a half. And being that I finish work less than an hour and a half before...
And I didn't practice driving the route, and I'm nervous about driving there, specifically driving for so long, and, and, and, and and.
Trying to call my GP's surgery now but haven't yet gotten through.

 

[Sunspots]

Could you explain to your boss that you have a really important appointment? Maybe they'd let you leave early.

 

[Innocent Forever]

Could you explain to your boss that you have a really important appointment? Maybe they'd let you leave early.

Second day teaching. And taking home a kid from school - though can cancel that. Just gonna leave when I get home.

 

[Walker]

Hey - relax. It's going to work out ok? You got this. Things are going to be alright.

 

[Innocent Forever]

I got through to my GP. The priory changed it - not my dr, because of availability and whatnot's.
I'm completely unimpressed that they did that without saying so. I feel like it's unprofessional, and I've no clue about anything to know if that's true or not.

Either way I'm keeping it. My GP made sure to say that this psych is a guy, am I okay with that? I don't know if I am or not, but I don't have the energy to figure anything out, so just keeping it - pushed it off to 6.30 so that can get there in time. I feel like this guy can't be good if he's so available....

 

[sinking_ship]

I got through to my GP. The priory changed it - not my dr, because of availability and whatnot's.
I'm completely unimpressed that they did that without saying so. I feel like it's unprofessional, and I've no clue about anything to know if that's true or not.

Either way I'm keeping it. My GP made sure to say that this psych is a guy, am I okay with that? I don't know if I am or not, but I don't have the energy to figure anything out, so just keeping it - pushed it off to 6.30 so that can get there in time. I feel like this guy can't be good if he's so available....

It could just be timing, someone cancelled or stopped seeing him. Or he works too hard haha. My therapist I know has a crazy full schedule but still has a hard time saying no to new patient.

 

[Innocent Forever]

It could just be timing, someone cancelled or stopped seeing him. Or he works too hard haha. My therapist I know has a crazy full schedule but still has a hard time saying no to new patient.

Nope coz' secretary called me on Friday offered me app for Saturday or today. And today I called and said does 6 work - yeah it does, does 6.30 - yeah it does. Hmm, he sounds pretty available to me.
Oh well, for I'm seeing him anyways, just hope it's okay for I'm a little nervous about seeing him. And the other person specialised in ED and eating really is an issue at the moment... oh well.

 

[sinking_ship]

Nope coz' secretary called me on Friday offered me app for Saturday or today. And today I called and said does 6 work - yeah it does, does 6.30 - yeah it does. Hmm, he sounds pretty available to me.
Oh well, for I'm seeing him anyways, just hope it's okay for I'm a little nervous about seeing him. And the other person specialised in ED and eating really is an issue at the moment... oh well.

First appointment is always just awkward but it’ll be fine. I hope you end up liking him. s*

 

[Angel368]

Hope your appointment went ok, give us an update when you're home.

 

[Innocent Forever]

T'was okay. Just completely exhausted.

He said he would refer on to either learn DBT/MBT, depends on what I'd need more. That can do this either at that hospital - see him and a therapist there, or through the NHS (which according to him is a 3-6 month waiting list, but I think that means for an appointment, not actually to study either), which is what he'd recommend as there's much more comprehensive support if you're in the NHS system.
Not sure what else.

I wanted him to know how little I was eating, so when he asked about food, I said could just show him My Fitness Pal (tracker) but he said okay, but he didn't ask to see it, which translated to me as he doesn't actually want to so I didn't show it to him, which I know now doesn't really make sense, but yeah whatever.

 

[DrownedFishOnFire]

Sucks. Is there a way for the private insurer to shift the referral back to dr S.S. as this one did not pan out well?

 

[sinking_ship]

T'was okay. Just completely exhausted.

He said he would refer on to either learn DBT/MBT, depends on what I'd need more. That can do this either at that hospital - see him and a therapist there, or through the NHS (which according to him is a 3-6 month waiting list, but I think that means for an appointment, not actually to study either), which is what he'd recommend as there's much more comprehensive support if you're in the NHS system.
Not sure what else.

I wanted him to know how little I was eating, so when he asked about food, I said could just show him My Fitness Pal (tracker) but he said okay, but he didn't ask to see it, which translated to me as he doesn't actually want to so I didn't show it to him, which I know now doesn't really make sense, but yeah whatever.

That sounds frustrating. I’m sorry it seems to be so hard there to get in to see someone.

 

[Innocent Forever]

Sucks. Is there a way for the private insurer to shift the referral back to dr S.S. as this one did not pan out well?

It actually worked okay.
He's giving me the referral for DBT - which is what I wanted.
Just under the weather, overwhelmed and not really sure what I think.
I'll ask my GP what he thinks about going through the NHS (I'd only be able to get help in the NHS because of this psych's letter).

 

[Sunspots]

You went, that's a huge achievement.
Hopefully you can get some DBT out of it, it's supposed to be really good.

Well done

 

[sinking_ship]

Your system over there sounds complicated and confusing, haha.

Not like OURS is any better I assume. I just understand it a little more.

 

[Innocent Forever]

Your system over there sounds complicated and confusing, haha.

Not like OURS is any better I assume. I just understand it a little more.

lol complicated and confusing it definitely is.

 

[Angel368]

T'was okay. Just completely exhausted.

He said he would refer on to either learn DBT/MBT, depends on what I'd need more. That can do this either at that hospital - see him and a therapist there, or through the NHS (which according to him is a 3-6 month waiting list, but I think that means for an appointment, not actually to study either), which is what he'd recommend as there's much more comprehensive support if you're in the NHS system.
Not sure what else.

I wanted him to know how little I was eating, so when he asked about food, I said could just show him My Fitness Pal (tracker) but he said okay, but he didn't ask to see it, which translated to me as he doesn't actually want to so I didn't show it to him, which I know now doesn't really make sense, but yeah whatever.

Congrats for getting through it and good you are getting a referral for DBT. I hear it is very helpful, and I hope the waiting time goes by quickly.

 

[Winter Blues]

Let us know what happens next Inno - keeping my fingers crossed that it works for you xx

 

[Innocent Forever]

Thanks all! (I know I'm not tagging anyone, don't have the energy).
Waiting for the psych to send a letter to my GP so that I can discuss with my GP whether to go privately or through the NHS. I'm not going to make an appointment with my GP before I get the letter (I asked for a copy to be sent to me) for he needs to have the info first.
I really can't be bothered for playing the waiting game.

 

[Innocent Forever]

Okay.
I'd love some help figuring this out.

He told me he'd think I've traits of BPD. I know that. I've known that for a long while (I just need to think of all the stuff I say and how I relate to so much of it). Yet, I'm seeing it as an insult. I DO NOT SEE IT AS AN INSULT FOR ANYONE ELSE. I know it's a double standard. And I don't think it's per se what a diagnosis would be. I think if I'm given any formal diagnosis I'd be insulted.

- Which makes no sense at all. Especially because as I said I don't see it that way for anyone else - just for myself.
- Which makes no sense because it's just a way to move forward - and I PUSHED for this - even with everyone telling me I don't need psychiatric help (my GP, and friends told me they don't think I do. I've 3 real friends and that was their thoughts). Yet I pushed for this and paid £300 for it - and now am paying everything on my credit card for don't yet have the money in my account.
- Which makes no sense as it gives me a way to move forward and get help - whether I go back to him privately or through the NHS - which I really need.

I don't think I see it as a stigma, because I definitely don't think that way about anyone else - when my friend was diagnosed with bipolar she told me a lot of her friends left, and I couldn't understand why. I've no issues discussing mental health with anyone....

So I'm caring, a lot, and I've no clue why, and I guess I think it'd help me to know what I actually care about.

Thoughts, anyone?

(and I've not really had any sleep and am under the weather so hope this makes sense)