pupils being bullied-what to do!

Discussion in 'Bullying' started by lost soul, Nov 1, 2006.

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  1. lost soul

    lost soul Guest

    hi

    I have found this for students/pupils. These are guidelines on what you can do if you are getting bullied.


    If you are being bullied

    try to stay calm and look as confident as you can

    be firm and clear - look them in the eye and tell them to stop

    get away from the situation as quickly as possible and

    tell an adult what has happened straight away

    If you find it difficult to talk to anyone at school or at home, ring ChildLine freephone on 0800 1111. If you are hard of hearing use our textphone 0800 400 222, you can also write to Freepost 1111, London N1 0BR.
    The phone call or letter is free, this is a confidential helpline




    After you have been bullied

    tell a teacher or another adult in your school

    tell your family

    if you are scared to tell a teacher or an adult on your own, ask a friend to go with you

    keep on speaking until someone listens and does something to stop the bullying

    if your school has a peer support service, use it

    don't blame yourself for what has happened

    If you find it difficult to talk to anyone at school or at home, ring ChildLine freephone on 0800 1111. If you are hard of hearing use our textphone 0800 400 222, you can also write to Freepost 1111, London N1 0BR.
    The phone call or letter is free, this is a confidential helpline




    When you are talking to an adult about bullying

    be clear about:

    what has happened to you

    how often it has happened

    who was involved

    who saw what was happening

    where it happened

    what you have done about it already

    If you find it difficult to talk to anyone at school or at home, ring ChildLine freephone on 0800 1111. If you are hard of hearing use our textphone 0800 400 222, you can also write to Freepost 1111, London N1 0BR.
    The phone call or letter is free, this is a confidential helpline




    If you experience bullying by mobile phone text messages or e mail
    when necessary, encourage your parents to report incidents to the police


    tell a parent, friend or teacher

    be careful who you give your mobile phone number or e mail address to

    make a note of exactly when a threatening message was sent
     
  2. Syd

    Syd Guest

    Easier said than done, especially when someone is confronted by a group. (Which often happens, as kids get emboldened enough by their peers to cause harm in groups) I would say that's good advice for the most part, though some additional considerations would also help.

    - Stay with a friend or several friends at school for protection, whenever possible

    - Don't react negatively to an verbal or physical threat, that usually is what fuels the attacker to continue. Ignore them or try to be friendly in spite of their actions.

    - If they continue bothering you still, report it and have them switched out of a class or have your class switched. Any option to separate you from them will work.

    - When someone physically attacks, you do have to react, though. Don't hurt them more than is necessary. You want to defend yourself, catch them off guard, disarm them, temporarily disable them. Martial arts will provide you with all the defensive technique you need, as long as you practice it regularly it will be effective.

    - Try to be friends with them once the conflict is over, if possible. I know some people will be confused as to why I'm saying this, but trust me - this works more often than you'd think. Bullies don't want to be hated, they need acceptance just like anyone else, they're only human. They are among the greatest sufferers of abuse, and have simply turned to displacement & projection to vent their stress. Loving someone who has shown you hate in the past is one of the greatest things you can do for a person.
     
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