As a Christian, I know I shouldn't be saying this. But I keep losing faith in God. Like someone said above, I feel like I am given more than I can handle. Maybe, I am overexaggerating the pains or mentally too weak. Who knows?
But what I know is that I was so utterly hurt, depressed, frustrated that I even attempted suicide this past May. It was my first time ever at the age of 24. I never thought I would ever attempt suicide in life but I felt I could no longer cope with the pains.
But like I said, maybe I am mentally too weak or something. I don't know the real answer. I hope God set me free and just let me be normal human being. I don't think I am asking too much. Am I?
Hey nicesinging,
I'm also 24 by the way.I felt everything you have felt in these past few weeks, and also tried killing myself. It was such a lame try that looking back on it I can't believe I thought it would even work but that's a different story, for once I was happy to be a screwup.
You shouldn't ever feel like you shouldn't express your faith struggle. God gives us all crosses to carry in this life, to follow Jesus includes taking up a cross as well.
Can I ask you some questions? Have you tried praying to God, telling Him that you feel these burdens are too heavy and asking Him to help you carry them?
Part of my 'recovery' now if you could call it that included asking God for forgiveness as well as for help.
Although I have suffered, I have also done and said and thought things I shouldn't have, things that were against God's will. My suicide attempt was certainly one of them. I also have looked at wrong things on the computer so I too am guilty of lust. I wanted to shut myself off to myself and I hated myself and that too is wrong. I asked God to forgive me for these things, that is the first thing I prayed for.
I think when we approach God we should lay everything we have before Him. Our problems and our hopes, but also our apologies. If you have done things that were wrong, have you repented for them? I don't want to sound like a 'preacher' but we need to confess our sins to God and apologize for them. It will also be helpful to you if you are feeling guilt. Believe me, it helps so much. And if you fall again, ask Him for forgiveness again. He will never turn you away.
I sometimes feel like I am weak as well, and according to God there is nothing wrong with that either. Even if your faith in Him is weak and even hanging on by a thread, He recognizes it. I would like to paste something I wrote about this to another person by email.
Even if your faith is hanging on by a thread, it is still there. The Bible says some things about that:
Isaiah 42:3
A bruised reed He will not break, and a smoldering wick He will not snuff out.
Romans 14:1-4
1Accept him whose faith is weak, without passing judgment on disputable matters. 2One man's faith allows him to eat everything, but another man, whose faith is weak, eats only vegetables. 3The man who eats everything must not look down on him who does not, and the man who does not eat everything must not condemn the man who does, for God has accepted him. 4Who are you to judge someone else's servant? To his own master he stands or falls. AND HE WILL STAND, FOR THE LORD IS ABLE TO MAKE HIM STAND (I capitalized that part)
- Sometimes we feel like bruised reeds or smoldering wicks and feel there is not enough within us to keep faithful to God. He accepts you for AS YOU ARE. He accepts your faith even if at times (or more often than that) it is 'weak' and you feel far from God. If you put your faith in God, HE HAS ACCEPTED YOU. And HE will make you stand.
If you have accepted Jesus into your life and put your faith in Him, know that He will always be with you and never abandon you as long as you keep reaching to Him. It sounds like you are doing that.
You are asking God for a life with less suffering in your life and you want to live like a 'normal person'. I see nothing wrong with that either.
I do not know what God will do for you, but I do know that if you allow Him to, He will help you carry these burdens. He may or may not make them disappear, but He will never allow them to overwhelm you.
The problems that led me to almost kill myself a few weeks ago did not disappear. I have however decided to give them to God- that means that whatever happens I will accept His will and know that in the long run it is what is best for me. I asked Him to take my pain, and it has helped. Does it still hurt? Of course. But actually much less and is getting better.
I have learned many things from my most recent experience, things I might not have learned had I not gone through these problems. I learned that I need to talk to people about my problems before they overshadow me. I learned that the feelings of worthlessness and hopelessness and suicide come from the enemy- Satan. I re-learned that God loves me, because He did not allow me to kill myself. I learned that I need to love myself and stop hating myself if I want to serve God and love others. I learned that even if some people close to me reject me, it hurts but it's not the end of the world, because other people are always there and so is He. I reconnected with some people I did not speak to for a while and met new friends.
Know that God loves you and that whatever happens if you choose to remain faithful to Him, He will stand by you.
Some ideas: If you do at times feel distant from Him, talk to Him. Pray to Him. Try reading a part of Scripture and asking Him for guidance, and then write down your thoughts. Maybe try listening to some Christian music- I'm a modern Praise&Worship fan, if you are interested some cool songs u can listen to online:
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Do you go to a church? Is there one near your area? Maybe try checking one out. Talk to a pastor or a priest about your struggles, I am sure they'll listen to you and share their knowledge and experiences and advice. If you get turned, that person is not really following God. Keep looking, you will find others who do.
If you ever want to talk, I'm there.
Cristo Vive!
- Tomasz