Hi, I am curious to know what some of the guys on the forum think about asking for help for any mental health issues they may have. The reason I ask is that I personally find it so hard to ask anyone for help or tell anyone I am in distress, I just can’t do it so I self medicate and bottle it up. In the UK most GPs are female now, they just come across like they are only interested in female health and they even state this (special interest in women health). I know this may be misleading but for a man, especially an older guy like me I just find it intimidating and seriously unwelcoming because its just so feminised. I think that in the UK in 20 years a male Dr will be a very rare thing yet the NHS does not seem to do anything about the way it focuses health care at men. Even last week the UK government announced more mental healthcare help for women with pre natal depression and girls with anorexia, this is wonderful news and I am so happy but why not men, its like were not worth the effort because we are not valued that highly. Thats how I feel. I am from that generation where my parents had tight gender roles, I was bought up to be very respectful of women which I uphold and was always taught that men don’t show weakness, its like that British stiff upper lip that everyone bangs on about. I tried to explain this to my wife and she said I sound mad just thinking this, but its just how I feel. I just can not go to my GP, a woman (who I have a deep respect for) and ask her to help me. Does anyone else think this way, like we are taught to be tough and man up and it ends up being out downfall. It does not seem to effect younger guys the same, its like the world just seems to have changed around me and i’m stuck between the old and the new. Seriously , I mean no offence to anyone. Im just a normal guy with issues and I am hoping someone will answer this and help me rationalise. I am going down such a destructive path that has to end soon one way or another.