Discussion in 'Rape and Abuse' started by hammockmonkey, Jan 7, 2009.
If you think you might be an abusive person, should you just kill yourself?
Of course not.
You should kill other people. Isnt that what abusive people do?
No. Even if you are an abusive person there are people and places (such as this one) that can help you with that. Death is never the answer to a situation.
...That probably sounds really weird coming from a suicidal person...but yeah...listen to my advice. Even if i cant. *hugs*
No, no one should kill themselves.
Try looking into why you think you are abusive and look for ways to help yourself...Life is precious and that includes yours.
'Abusive people' are all individuals with their own history/consciousness and are probably externalising things rather than what I do which is internalise everything...
And it's up to the individual to see whether they want to change their behaviour. Just like any kind of self inflicted harm- some people feel safety sticking to a behaviour, some people want to change- it depends if that individual wants change, if not, then that person is gonna have fucked relationships for the rest of their life and go about externalising things/using people as objects and not being in touch with their feelings because it scares them so much.
And the fact you're asking the question, I 'm not sure if you're referring to yourself, but I want to let you know, there are so many people who will not ever think their behaviour is 'abusive' because it's so 'normal' and they get away with fucking murder with what privileges they have in society or by manipulation until people start exposing what they've done. So if you're asking 'am i an abusive person' that I think, is a sign of honesty and insight.
I've asked that question so many times and worried about it, because I internalised my father and thought I was an awful person. Shows how what chronic abuse can do to someone on the receiving end. I became 'an abuser' by default and was dying through my ED because I thought I was a horrible person..
this is a great post.ty
Let me add: or others.
No never... but you could perhaps get some help...
No one is angel, dosnt mean we all have to kill ourselfs