What questions should one ask before any commitment? That includes marriage. I'll start : Are you happy with the way you and your partner are? Remember, you can't change each other. It will make a person unhappy if you try to change certain behaviors within she or he. It will often cause resentment if you try to change each other. Make sure that you are happy with the person and don't want to change anything about each other. Do you and your partner don't make enough money to support each other? If you have to borrow money constantly just to pay the bills each month then you probably shouldn't get married yet. Are you dating someone just for showing off?