Sorry to be posting all this, because it's bound to be a load of rambling crap, but I really do need to Let It All Out right now...
Yesterday morning I had an appointment with a psychiatrist and a social worker. It was a hard meeting, I had a great deal of difficulty making myself go, but I did. And I'm glad. I'm finally going to be getting help (meds and therapy) to deal with all my shit.
I came home yesterday feeling quite proud of myself. My Mum asked me how it went and stuff and I told her. It didn't go down well at all! She seemed put out that they thought I needed help, and that they were going to give it to me, and that they'd been sympathetic, and everything. She was kind of funny with me all afternoon, then at supper last night she just started getting at me about everything, though I hadn't actually done anything wrong. She was drunk by this point, but that's not new.
I was really getting worked up but I didn't show it. I just politely excused myself as soon as I'd finished my food and went upstairs. A little later I came down to get some vanilla ice cream (I have a chest infection at the moment and I wanted something to soothe my throat). I was putting some in a bowl when my shitty little brother (who is 14 and really should know better) came in and said "Hey! Don't eat all my ice cream! Mummy she's eating all my ice cream!". I said that for starters it wasn't his ice cream, it was sharing ice cream, and for seconds the (small Ben&Jerry's) tub was less than a third full, and that was purely because he had eaten two-thirds of it yesterday. I said I'd take what I wanted as I hadn't had any yet, and I'd leave him the rest. My mum started going on at me about how that wasn't fair, and how we should split what was left in half.
I, for obvious reasons, disagreed, but I did what she said anyway because I didn't want to have some huge scene with my mum. I left half of what was left in the tub for by brother and started going upstairs. My brother showed my mum how little was left in the tub (despite the fact that there was no more in my bowl than that) and she went nuts. She was going "Oh how can you be so SELFISH?! You are so MEAN!!" and I was just practically exploding by this point and I came back downstairs and showed her how little was in my bowl. I started going back upstairs and she was all "You are so MEAN ~Nobody~, I don't know what's happened to you lately. You've got no excuse to be this SELFISH...". So I (fairly, I think) stomped up the stairs (yes, like a stroppy kid but it was me being angry yet restrained) went into my room, and slammed my door.
I was about to get my hamsters out to calm me down. I had no idea at this point that my mum was so desperately looking for an argument that she was going to follow me. But she did. She stormed into my room, got my by my hair, and started calling me "a monster" I told her she was the monster, and she was the selfish one, and she was also drunk, and "an old cow" or something like that. I didn't hit her, push her, pull her hair, anything. I never have. Meanwhile she's practically breaking my neck pulling my head back by my hair. I shouted "get the FUCK off me!" and she let go, went downstairs, and started complaining to her fiance about the language I use, and the names I called her, and blah blah blah. She came back upstairs and told me to go. So I did.
I am sick of this. Why does she always have to make it so everything's about her? Thinking about it now I know she just loved the idea of being able to ring up my grandma in tears and say "~Nobody~ stormed out of the house AGAIN! Why? Because I wouldn't let her have her brother's ice cream for herself!" EURGH SHE MAKES ME SO ANGRY!! I was in tears for hours last night. She hasn't contacted me at all (of course, it means she can also cry about how I haven't even spoken to her).
It's my 18th birthday on Friday! We were supposed to be having a family meal. I know how pathetic all this sounds but I am now crying again. Why can't she just be happy for me, ever?? :cry: :cry: :cry:
Yesterday morning I had an appointment with a psychiatrist and a social worker. It was a hard meeting, I had a great deal of difficulty making myself go, but I did. And I'm glad. I'm finally going to be getting help (meds and therapy) to deal with all my shit.
I came home yesterday feeling quite proud of myself. My Mum asked me how it went and stuff and I told her. It didn't go down well at all! She seemed put out that they thought I needed help, and that they were going to give it to me, and that they'd been sympathetic, and everything. She was kind of funny with me all afternoon, then at supper last night she just started getting at me about everything, though I hadn't actually done anything wrong. She was drunk by this point, but that's not new.
I was really getting worked up but I didn't show it. I just politely excused myself as soon as I'd finished my food and went upstairs. A little later I came down to get some vanilla ice cream (I have a chest infection at the moment and I wanted something to soothe my throat). I was putting some in a bowl when my shitty little brother (who is 14 and really should know better) came in and said "Hey! Don't eat all my ice cream! Mummy she's eating all my ice cream!". I said that for starters it wasn't his ice cream, it was sharing ice cream, and for seconds the (small Ben&Jerry's) tub was less than a third full, and that was purely because he had eaten two-thirds of it yesterday. I said I'd take what I wanted as I hadn't had any yet, and I'd leave him the rest. My mum started going on at me about how that wasn't fair, and how we should split what was left in half.
I, for obvious reasons, disagreed, but I did what she said anyway because I didn't want to have some huge scene with my mum. I left half of what was left in the tub for by brother and started going upstairs. My brother showed my mum how little was left in the tub (despite the fact that there was no more in my bowl than that) and she went nuts. She was going "Oh how can you be so SELFISH?! You are so MEAN!!" and I was just practically exploding by this point and I came back downstairs and showed her how little was in my bowl. I started going back upstairs and she was all "You are so MEAN ~Nobody~, I don't know what's happened to you lately. You've got no excuse to be this SELFISH...". So I (fairly, I think) stomped up the stairs (yes, like a stroppy kid but it was me being angry yet restrained) went into my room, and slammed my door.
I was about to get my hamsters out to calm me down. I had no idea at this point that my mum was so desperately looking for an argument that she was going to follow me. But she did. She stormed into my room, got my by my hair, and started calling me "a monster" I told her she was the monster, and she was the selfish one, and she was also drunk, and "an old cow" or something like that. I didn't hit her, push her, pull her hair, anything. I never have. Meanwhile she's practically breaking my neck pulling my head back by my hair. I shouted "get the FUCK off me!" and she let go, went downstairs, and started complaining to her fiance about the language I use, and the names I called her, and blah blah blah. She came back upstairs and told me to go. So I did.
I am sick of this. Why does she always have to make it so everything's about her? Thinking about it now I know she just loved the idea of being able to ring up my grandma in tears and say "~Nobody~ stormed out of the house AGAIN! Why? Because I wouldn't let her have her brother's ice cream for herself!" EURGH SHE MAKES ME SO ANGRY!! I was in tears for hours last night. She hasn't contacted me at all (of course, it means she can also cry about how I haven't even spoken to her).
It's my 18th birthday on Friday! We were supposed to be having a family meal. I know how pathetic all this sounds but I am now crying again. Why can't she just be happy for me, ever?? :cry: :cry: :cry: