I'm very curious how many of you even know what real support is. Don't ask me, i'm not Albert Einstein or a psycho analyst although i think i've met a few on this site. If you want to know, try a few other support sites and tell me the differences you see, then you'll get what i mean. Often it's the people who cry the loudest who get the most attention, but that doesn't mean they're in any way the most troubled. Those who often need the real help get a simple :hugtackles: and then everyone leaves them to deal with their own problems. Now i'm not saying you guys need to be geniuses, you don't have to say that magic 1 line that makes the person feel all better; but i see that often those who write extremely outlandish statements; statements that in no way adhere to the personality they had so far portrayed are the ones who get the most attention. Sometimes, just like a good school professor will do, if you copy and paste small segments into google, you might find that not only did they plagiarize, they didn't even take the time to rewrite it into their own words. Granted some people need attention, and it's good to give it to them, but when someone's issue is they need attention and will write outlandish things to get it, at the expense of someone who may actually be suffering, may have actually performed these said "outlandish" events, and they go unnoticed; i don't think that acceptable. I've never been to a forum that doesn't have attention who.rs and those are the people who are often satisfied by having as many people post hugs as possible, the more posts they get, the happier you make them. Some people need more than a hug, especially if you don't even know them, and say things like "i'm your friend" even though it's the first time you've ever seen them post. you can't be their friend after having only read one post...or you don't know what friendship means. :irony: how about instead of just saying, i'm your friend, or you can always PM me, try forming an actual relationship, talk to them about your past, tell them how you can relate, get to know why they feel this way, and see if you can find a positive way to push them in a direction that'll solve their problems. Granted some of you do this, and i'm glad we have people like you on this site, but many of you think that support means :hug: and then disappear. I don't know how many of you are completely satisfied about posting your problems, pouring your heart out, saying things you'd rather not say, expecting understanding, an acknowledgment that someone understand, and are happy to have a complete stranger say i'm your friend :hug: . For some of us, that's not good enough, if that's all it took, i'd probably never have any problems to begin with. I never really cared to start an unjustified fight. I'm not naming names, and i'm not gong to debate this. I've had alot of time to browse the forum the last two days and to visit other support sites...and i've realized, some get it right, and some don't...and this one needs alot of work. Like i said, this doesn't apply to everyone, but i like how more than half of you consider a :hug: to be the best support you can give.