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realtionship trouble

Ardentli

Well-Known Member
#1
My boyfriend of 2 years ...im not sure how to put this. He's conflicted about a job opportunity that would have him be away from me a lot. And he feels its not fair to me to stay together so we should go on a break.

I don't understand how that makes sense. I told him i was fine if he needs to be away, i don't want to not be in a relationship. I don't see the point of that. We live together and have a lease till july.

I feel detached from this. Sort of hurt tbh but im not drpressed so im sort of just numb and confused. I been going through everything ive done wrong or could be doing wrong...i just feel lost.

I don't want to force him to anything he doesn't want. I don't want to be a burden. He hasn't made his decision yet...but am i wrong to think, how is this a decision?...in that im not a part of your priorities?

I want marriage and a home in the future but when i talk or ask him about that. If he sees us together in the future, he says he doesn't know. I suppose I'm not used to actually having a reason to be sad...i don't know how to handle this. Maybe its this feeling of being expendable, not a priority and i feel like this can make me spiral in a bad way. And o can't share that with him because then he'll be guilty or do something he shouldn't for my sake because he feels bad...
 
#2
Sorry that this is happening.

It's understandable that you feel the way you do given that he's thinking of making work his priority over the relationship.

Is talking to a couples counselor an option?
 
#3
My boyfriend of 2 years ...im not sure how to put this. He's conflicted about a job opportunity that would have him be away from me a lot. And he feels its not fair to me to stay together so we should go on a break.

I don't understand how that makes sense. I told him i was fine if he needs to be away, i don't want to not be in a relationship. I don't see the point of that. We live together and have a lease till july.

I feel detached from this. Sort of hurt tbh but im not drpressed so im sort of just numb and confused. I been going through everything ive done wrong or could be doing wrong...i just feel lost.

I don't want to force him to anything he doesn't want. I don't want to be a burden. He hasn't made his decision yet...but am i wrong to think, how is this a decision?...in that im not a part of your priorities?

I want marriage and a home in the future but when i talk or ask him about that. If he sees us together in the future, he says he doesn't know. I suppose I'm not used to actually having a reason to be sad...i don't know how to handle this. Maybe its this feeling of being expendable, not a priority and i feel like this can make me spiral in a bad way. And o can't share that with him because then he'll be guilty or do something he shouldn't for my sake because he feels bad...
Wow I was in something very similar. A woman I dated for 2 years suddenly took a new job and I tried to make it work, but she started saying things like it wouldn't be fair to me. She eventually slept with someone at her job and I found out the hard way.

I can't exactly tell you what to do as I made a lot of poor decisions following it. I can simply just say follow your heart and try to make rational decisions. It might not be pretty for a while but it's the best I can offer.
 

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