It is all my fault. My wife picks fights (it is a problem she is proud to have identified in other members of her family, but doesn't realise she pulls the same stuff herself, in OUR relationship) and after six years, it is really wearing me down. Every time there is an external problem (neighbour dispute, bill we can't meet, etc.) she uses this as a reason to cause a TOTALLY unrelated argument between us. It is as if the only way she can deal with external problems is by having an argument with me and internalising an external problem. But it is still all my fault. So she tells me. Again, and again and again. She is a Dr of pyschology and uses her knowledge to goad me into a fight. Of course, when on the rare times I do snap, she considers this a victory and stores up whatever I said and uses it as a weapon against me weeks or months later. And not just once, either. Now I am wondering if life is worth living. Six years of constant battering of my psyche have done this and brought me down really low. The other week I was using a serated knife and suddenly thought "I could use this on me."