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  1. ~PinkElephants~

    ~PinkElephants~ Senior member

    I don't know if this goes here. If it doesn't by all means move it wherever.

    I've been thinking tonight about relationships. Can you see yourself with someone who is depressed like you, more depressed or less depressed?

    I don't know. I'm sitting here fighting to get better, to be happier, to have some kind of meaningful life. I'd like to meet someone, fall in love, etc. whether it be possible or not. I don't know if I see myself with someone more depressed than me. I can see myself with someone who understands my problems and shares some of the similar ones, but beyond that I don't think I could deal with someone who's more depressed. I want to be able to move on and be happy and not live each day as a struggle.

  2. Spearmint

    Spearmint Well-Known Member

    I answered your question earlier, so I guess I'll just copy and paste from the MSN conversation.

    Hmm..Someone who is more depressed, no fucking way, someone who is equally, nah, but maybe, if I honestly cared about them, less, or normal is more my type, I guess.. :unsure: Like, i could deal with depression/cutting/suicidal ideation, but other than that, I'm not so sure I could hang with that. :unsure: It's kinda like, well, what if I start getting better, I wouldn't really want to be dragged back down, but I don't know.
  3. HappyAZaClaM

    HappyAZaClaM Guest

    interesting question(s) for me...I think as you said that someone who
    was at least 'sort of' depressed would at least understand where I was
    coming from in a general sense.

    it's hard to say if a person who was 'more' depressed would be hard to
    deal with or tolerate...rather, if I would be 'able' to deal with someone
    who was more depressed than me.

    it depends on how the relationship started and how it developed and
    strong it was and stuff like that.

    depressed persons are not all the same and their cycle(s) of depression
    are different. you could come home one day and find your partner just
    bottomed out in a gloom and doom funk of depression you had not seen
    before, that you had not realized was possible before.

    if you are already vested in that person in terms of being in love, enjoying
    one anothers company more than either of you has ever enjoyed anyone hard to say "whoa. can't deal with this shit"

    you or me or anyone may not be able, realistically, to deal with it if it happens
    a LOT, but I think you would try. and I think I would try. ok, who the
    hell knows basically :biggrin:

    burn that bridge when we get to it, and it was a good question and a
    thought provoking post.
  4. bleach

    bleach Well-Known Member

    Desperate as I am, I would be with someone more depressed or equally so, but it probably wouldn't be good for either of us
  5. HappyAZaClaM

    HappyAZaClaM Guest

    maybe not. but you don't know that afore the fact. there are no rules cast
    in stone about any of this stuff. I am not an eggzpert (who is?) but it
    seems to me that it is at least 'possible' that 2 depressed people may be
    each others catylist(s) to rise from the depression into a better place
    together. possible......
  6. Hae-Gi

    Hae-Gi Banned Member

    It is indeed possible. It has happened to me... and her. She's the more depressed one, but I'm going to keep her happy...

    We will be moving together, soon. She lives in another country but it's all going to go well...
  7. HappyAZaClaM

    HappyAZaClaM Guest

    well, at least up there..going to the next country is like going to the
    next town in the states. so, not much of a logistics problem. good for you!

    the only 'scandanavian' country (if that is improper, tell me) I have been to
    is Denmark. but I was up around that part of the world about 30 years ago.

    what country is she from if you do not mind my asking?
  8. aoeu

    aoeu Well-Known Member

    I don't know if this is good... My relationships are characteristically unhealthy.

    But relationships with depressed people feel so nice. They depend on you, and you them... It's a very nice interaction. You both support eachother and whenever one of you is feeling down, you'll cheer up together.

    Unfortunately, Sarah's started to get support from people other than me... So I'm just needy now.
  9. Hae-Gi

    Hae-Gi Banned Member

    One faraway. :smile:

    And saying Scandinavia isn't improper.
  10. HappyAZaClaM

    HappyAZaClaM Guest

    far away. so, not the next one over then. it goes. you're young.
    you can do it. I'm too old for globe trotting unless I get paid enough to trot
    in some serious world class style. not bloody likely.

    anyway, go for it!
  11. Hae-Gi

    Hae-Gi Banned Member

    Me doing anything else than just that would be proof of madness.
  12. JohnADreams

    JohnADreams Well-Known Member

    I cant really see myself with anyone, depressed or not.:dry:
  13. HappyAZaClaM

    HappyAZaClaM Guest

    why? you seem like an intelligent nice enough kind of a guy. if you
    wanna say "none of your F-ing business" I can dig it. I'm just curious.

    I have been single and celibate for 12 years now, approximately. I didn't
    get a 30 chip or anything, so the figures are not exact :biggrin:

    but close :dry:

    still, if I manage to meet someone nice before I am TOO old fat and bald,
    it'd be cool. can't get no balder I's the old and fat part got
    a bit o' catchin up to do. \\

    why you say what you say?
  14. JohnADreams

    JohnADreams Well-Known Member

    It's just due to having all the social skills of a wet sponge, major social anxiety, abandonment issues, no real talents and pretty low self esteem. Nothing that reincarnation couldnt solve. :laugh:
  15. HappyAZaClaM

    HappyAZaClaM Guest

    >>>It's just due to having all the social skills of a wet sponge<<<

    self deprecating humor, gets em every time :)

    >>>major social anxiety<<<


    >>abandonment issues<<<


    >>>no real talents and pretty low self esteem<<<

    humilty with hidden talents you don't want to talk about.

    >>>Nothing that reincarnation couldnt solve :laugh<<<

    ya got me there! ya think we can decide what we're comin back as?
    that would be interesting. hardly fair to the unsuspecting buggars
    still here while you wuz off doing the presto chango. still, it works
    how it works. I didn't make the rules! :biggrin:[
  16. JohnADreams

    JohnADreams Well-Known Member

    I'd like to come back as a badger, just for the hell of it. A sloth would be fine too.

    Human-wise, I'd like to try out living as someone with major delusions. It must be difficult to get bored if you constantly wear a tinfoil hat in order to stop anyone from reading your thoughts.
  17. HappyAZaClaM

    HappyAZaClaM Guest

    hmmmm..... tinfoil hat ay? I figure if someones trying out their
    psychic vampire skills on me, fuck em :)

    my first thought I send their way is "enter at yer own risk mutherfucker"
    but whatever.

    delusional as in overconfident and utterly unqualified would be fun to
    try. it seems a popular combo of shortcomings these days. look around :)

    Palin/McCain......"we're stupid, but we're full of ourselves! GRIN!!!" "God Bless

    then, there's THIS guy too...üller

    true story...Martin is the great great great great grandfather of actor
    and Olympic champion Johnny Waldseemüller. no joke!!
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  18. HappyAZaClaM

    HappyAZaClaM Guest you aint buyin inta any o' this then?

    >>It's just due to having all the social skills of a wet sponge<<
    self deprecating humor, gets em every time

    >>major social anxiety<<

    >>abandonment issues<<

    >>no real talents and pretty low self esteem<<
    humilty with hidden talents you don't want to talk about.

    oh well. I tried. I know what ya mean. it usually never works out.
    kinda one o them "I shaved my legs for THIS?" kinda things. well, that's
    what my date always says..if I ever had one :rolleyes:
  19. JohnADreams

    JohnADreams Well-Known Member

    The humor and humiity is more about low self esteem than anything else. I dont believe they come from anything good but it's nice of you to say.
    I'm more or less in therapy right now. Havent been for a month though and it just seems to go nowhere.
    I looked up an alternative to valium, so I dont have to wait for prescriptions or deal with the side effects. I havent had anything good come from medications in the past and I've tried about a half dozen different kinds, but this might work out, so I'll give it a try. Thanks. :smile:
  20. LostMyMind

    LostMyMind Well-Known Member

    I would like to find someone with a much more positive outlook than myself. Someone who could possibly help lift me out of depression. I was with someone for 3 years and we both had depression, it wasn't a pleasant experience.
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