A lot of you know I lost my wife. Why is it, especially at family gatherings or celebrations, that no one mentions her name or events that we were all a part of? It seems like I'm always the one that starts those conversations. Does everyone think that I've already forgotten that she's passed away, and that to acknowledge her is going to remind me that she's gone? I know that every minute of every day. At one time, she was the one to send out the cards, bring something special to gatherings, the first one who called with congratulations or sympathy. It hurts to think that she's not remembered or spoken of. She worked so hard and loved my family and friends so much. I feel like if I mention her,the reaction is "here he goes again" Other deceased relatives are spoken of, sometimes becoming one of those stories that get brought out at every occasion. Does that happen in anyone else's family? And if this belongs in the Rants section, please move it.