I just had a brief exchange of messages with somebody very justifiably upset. Less upset perhaps than pissed off. I had to delete a post of theirs as potentially flaming. I will not restore the post because it was in fact inflammatory and not really directed at the original poster both of which make it inappropriate. But since the topic comes up 12x a week on here it is worth mentioning. It is said all the time on here how it is fault of parents for having the kid since they were ugly or that the kid is ugly - so they doomed the child to a life of misery . That ugly people should not reproduce and blah blah blah. The response i deleted was replying to somebody that said exactly that - ugly people should not reproduce... the response The simple fact is I do not disagree with the reply. Does not make it appropriate but I find i often delete the replies I most agree with here. This belief that your personal self worth is determined by your ability to have sex with a person or multiple people that you believe are "attractive" (and even often blatantly claim "I want to have sex with hot women" "I want to get attention of good looking men with jobs and not after just sex" or other really enlightened views - If you believe your life value is determined on number of sexual conquests and where they rate on your personal grading scale of 1-10 then yes, you do have issues. It has nothing at all to do with your physical appearance and 100% to do with your bad attitude. The help you need is not in a way to get laid, it is in a therapist to help you reset your personal values. Invariably it is always the same thing - I am ugly and I want sex with hot attractive people only. It is your personal value system that is making you unable to find satisfaction and lose all appeal to others interested in a romantic or sexual relationship. If you are so convinced you are ugly then no, you will not put out an image that is attractive to most other people. Your personal lack of confidence and shallow view of the world based on the physical attributes whether it is size of penis or being obese or small chest or too skinny or short or whatever else you think has any value is the issue. I really love the added bonus statement "I have even tried dating ugly women" that so often accompanies these posts. I am certain that your belief they are ugly and unworthy was in no way apparent .... right. So you believe people you find attractive are not attracted to you because you are ugly or some physical genetic defect? Consider the possibility for a moment it is because they see the way you are looking at half the people in the room with them - with disdain and and a feeling of superiority or that those people are not worth your time when they are all the same as you. It is that self righteous, self entitled, bad attitude that is your enemy. It is not the genes dictating your physical looks- it is your bad attitude that is so ugly. No haircut, cosmetic procedure, or endless working out and dieting will change that. Do hot looking attractive people get a lot of attention? Yes, probably. So what? They are far from the only ones - just they are the only ones you and people that share your skewed set of values are looking at. Because it is easier to pretend that it should be "easy" for you and that you should not have to work or put effort into achieving what you want. So instead or effort at achieving all of your energy goes into hating those that do achieve. Stop lamenting the physical appearance that you may or may not be able to change and instead put your energy into getting help for yourself from either self help or therapy in treating the actual issue which is perception and belief that it is supposed to be easy and you should not have to work at making yourself better. That it is "unfair". There certainly is a problem that needs to be dealt with but it is all a problem with attitude and values - those are very minimally genetic and easily changed by having a more open mind. But hey - that takes work to too if you try to change attitude and the issue is wanting everything to be easy in end so it may be an uphill battle.