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Saw a couple kissing on the bus

SAVE_ME

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#1
I saw a couple kissing on the bus yesterday which made me feel all moody when I got home. Then I just sat and cried my eyes out for a while. Felt annoyed too because it felt like I was having it rubbed in my face. Like I've got Nelson from The Simpsons sitting beside me going: "Haw haw! You're alone!" Is this seriously meant to be someone's idea of a cruel joke?!
 

Terra

Well-Known Member
#3
I get how that can feel. I used to get it everytime I saw a couple hold hands in puplic, or snuggle at the buss. I would get this huge empty feeling while looking at them and it made me do stupid things as meeting guys trough the internet and exposing myself for danger just to get some sense of closeness. I Regret that, I was a virgin but lost it to some stranger because i got jealous at a couple on the bus.. pretty pathetic right? After that I stopped looking, Since there is no feelings for one you only have sex with, no mutual feelings atleast, and I believed I would never find someone to love. It took me 3 years to get over the nightmares I got from the guys and even another one to get some respect for myself.

Please don't rush it like I did, Respect yourself and only then will a healthy relationship occur. When I look back at the feelings I had back then I realised how desperate I was, but please be a little patient. I managed to take my thoughts of relationships by spending hours each day on hobbies and studies, and well not proud to admit it porn *shrug* but atleast i got trough it in the end. No one is meant to be "forever" alone, though it might feel like that, sorry for sounding so lecturing, it was not my intention but it's hard to write down feelings
 

ExtraSoap

Well-Known Member
#5
I saw a couple kissing on the bus yesterday which made me feel all moody when I got home. Then I just sat and cried my eyes out for a while. Felt annoyed too because it felt like I was having it rubbed in my face. Like I've got Nelson from The Simpsons sitting beside me going: "Haw haw! You're alone!" Is this seriously meant to be someone's idea of a cruel joke?!
Yeah, whenever I see a couple together I immediately want to go hurt something. I legitimately want to go punch one of them as hard as I can for rubbing all my failures and self esteem issues in. You're not alone.
 

SAVE_ME

Well-Known Member
#6
I get how that can feel. I used to get it everytime I saw a couple hold hands in puplic, or snuggle at the buss. I would get this huge empty feeling while looking at them and it made me do stupid things as meeting guys trough the internet and exposing myself for danger just to get some sense of closeness. I Regret that, I was a virgin but lost it to some stranger because i got jealous at a couple on the bus.. pretty pathetic right? After that I stopped looking, Since there is no feelings for one you only have sex with, no mutual feelings atleast, and I believed I would never find someone to love. It took me 3 years to get over the nightmares I got from the guys and even another one to get some respect for myself.

Please don't rush it like I did, Respect yourself and only then will a healthy relationship occur. When I look back at the feelings I had back then I realised how desperate I was, but please be a little patient. I managed to take my thoughts of relationships by spending hours each day on hobbies and studies, and well not proud to admit it porn *shrug* but atleast i got trough it in the end. No one is meant to be "forever" alone, though it might feel like that, sorry for sounding so lecturing, it was not my intention but it's hard to write down feelings
Oh, I'm way past the 'desperate' stage. I was involved in an internet "relationship" (if you can call it one) but I regret it now. I won't ever do something stupid like that again. I learned my lesson and I'm pleased to be able to say I've moved on from that and I'm no longer as desperate for a relationship...BUT...I won't lie. It still sucks. People say I should start off just being friends but I don't have any friends either and I'm unable to form any lasting friendships, let alone relationships. I don't even think I'm that bad of a person, both lookswise and personality. But for some reason I'm just never able to meet anyone. It's like they're all hiding from me. And if I do see someone I'm interested in, she's already taken. Urrgh!! Life's just so unfair sometimes.

Rant over.
 

Entoloma43

Well-Known Member
#7
Felt annoyed too because it felt like I was having it rubbed in my face. Like I've got Nelson from The Simpsons sitting beside me going: "Haw haw! You're alone!" Is this seriously meant to be someone's idea of a cruel joke?!
The world doesn't revolve around you. People have lives. There's no vast conspiracy against you.

whenever I see a couple together I immediately want to go hurt something. I legitimately want to go punch one of them as hard as I can for rubbing all my failures and self esteem issues in.
Well, that may be one reason you're alone.
 
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gloomy

Account Closed
#8
PDA is obnoxious-- there's really no other way to put it.

I get upset sometimes I guess… but I also know that if I had a girlfriend I would never feel like I had to kiss her in public or do whatever… I don't think it's important that anyone know what's going on with us, and most couples who are secure in their relationship don't feel the need to put it on display.

It's sort of one of those bullshit things that make me hate the world, actually…
 
#9
I used to feel upset in that way just seems like the whole world is full of couples when your alone eh! I think the longer it goes then the less I've thought about them anymore. I suppose I've just accepted that being loved or loving someone is no longer part of my destiny. Dont get me wrong there are still some nights where I've laid in bed and could cry my eyes out but I figure that will stop eventually.
 

Jacob1973

Well-Known Member
#10
Well my best friend just got married last month, and its hard for me to see him and her kissing, hugging, etc. Im happy for them, but I keep dreaming, and wishing that it was me in his shoes. I cant watch people do PDA, even my family members. I have to walk away, or else I am sure that I would start crying. How ackward that would be.... Then I just start thinking about dying.
 

ExtraSoap

Well-Known Member
#11
The world doesn't revolve around you. People have lives. There's no vast conspiracy against you.


Well, that may be one reason you're alone.
Sir, may I ask why you're running around a site with some emotionally unstable people and insulting them? Does it make you feel better about yourself or something?
 

Rayne

Well-Known Member
#13
It's not fair to say that people who kiss on the bus are doing it because they're "insecure" about their relationship.
It's also unfair to say you wouldn't do the same.
Particularly early on, it's hard to keep your hands off someone you adore - but they're not even aware of anyone around them, they're honestly not trying to hurt you. I would have agreed with you, until I met the guy I'm with now. It's self centered, yeah, but in no way malicious.

To everyone else struggling, please try and keep in mind that nobody is mocking you. Nobody is pointing out (or even seeing) your "flaws" as you perceive them. I think Entoloma was just trying to put things in perspective, though not in the kindest way...
But perhaps it might be a good idea to talk to someone if seeing things like this makes you want to hurt things or people? That can't be safe for you or those around you.
 

ExtraSoap

Well-Known Member
#14
It's not fair to say that people who kiss on the bus are doing it because they're "insecure" about their relationship.
It's also unfair to say you wouldn't do the same.
Particularly early on, it's hard to keep your hands off someone you adore - but they're not even aware of anyone around them, they're honestly not trying to hurt you. I would have agreed with you, until I met the guy I'm with now. It's self centered, yeah, but in no way malicious.

To everyone else struggling, please try and keep in mind that nobody is mocking you. Nobody is pointing out (or even seeing) your "flaws" as you perceive them. I think Entoloma was just trying to put things in perspective, though not in the kindest way...
But perhaps it might be a good idea to talk to someone if seeing things like this makes you want to hurt things or people? That can't be safe for you or those around you.
Theyre not actual impulses, I was trying to say how frustrated it makes me
 

Entoloma43

Well-Known Member
#15
Sir, may I ask why you're running around a site with some emotionally unstable people and insulting them? Does it make you feel better about yourself or something?
If you want to violently assault a couple when they kiss in public, then that may be a reason in itself why you are alone. If pointing out this obvious fact is insulting, so be it.
 
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Rose24

Chat & Forum Buddy
#17
Oh, I'm way past the 'desperate' stage. I was involved in an internet "relationship" (if you can call it one) but I regret it now. I won't ever do something stupid like that again. I learned my lesson and I'm pleased to be able to say I've moved on from that and I'm no longer as desperate for a relationship...BUT...I won't lie. It still sucks. People say I should start off just being friends but I don't have any friends either and I'm unable to form any lasting friendships, let alone relationships. I don't even think I'm that bad of a person, both lookswise and personality. But for some reason I'm just never able to meet anyone. It's like they're all hiding from me. And if I do see someone I'm interested in, she's already taken. Urrgh!! Life's just so unfair sometimes.

Rant over.
why dont you go to singles events?? Its a great place to meet new people, even if it doesnt go anywhere. you seem like a really nice and sensitive person, when someone is looking for a commited relationship theyre the qualities they need in a partner, and more often than not, at singles events people are looking for commited relationhips. But yes, when your online dating or at singles events you do have to people careful with choosing who you pick, often there are people there who are more effed up than we are!!!!

Also, i hated PDA when i was single, and even when i was in a relationship and it felt that my partner didnt care about me as much as other people boyfriends do...
 
#18
I'm sorry, I am one of the people who do this. However I have no intention of hurting anyone, just really odd ideas in my head saying that maybe if he kisses me in public, he may actually not be ashamed of being with me....
 

justMe7

Well-Known Member
#19
Id say the thing to remember is that there are lives going on outside and completely disconnected from your own on basic social levels. Everyone has the freedom to do what they want and not have to think about how it affects other people.(to a degree I suppose....idk) When they kiss, you're instantly jumping onto that situation and associating your own ideas and feelings onto their situation instead of seeing two people enjoying eachothers company. If being subjected to people enjoying eachothers presence sets you off, I would suggest trying to find or strengthen a balance that allows you to explore your own feelings, while appricating and respecting others who are experiencing their own experiences. I think that helps to give yourself the ability to expose yourself without dominating the situation with your own issues. It'd help atleast give you something to cling on instead of spiraling out on the subjections and associations that are causing you such distress.

Things can get better, just don't make yourself believe they cant with stuff like this.
 

Witty⭐️Sarcasm ⭐️

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#20
Sometimes I feel a bit jealous, but then I realize that could be me if I just got over my insecurities and all. Sometimes I just think "eww PDA and love is gross" lol. Just the little kid in me coming out.
 

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