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Saying hello before fair well date

Discussion in 'Welcome' started by Molly139, May 18, 2015.

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  1. Molly139

    Molly139 New Member

    hi all,

    Introducing myself as a fellow member <Mod edit:Guidelines> I've come to the point that I don't know why I should go ahead.. I have lost all interest in many things, stopped volunteering at several places, no longer have a significant other(18 year relationship) and have no interest in tarting over. I have no interest in starting anything over, business, love, anything!,,,

    Well I know we should not rant here but to simply introduce ourselves. I have to run to yet another Drs appt... Health issues are another reasons to depart. I shall share more later. ThNks for listening.

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  2. Petal

    Petal SF dreamer Staff Member Safety & Support SF Supporter

    Hello Molly and welcome to the forum!! You have joined a great place for support help and friendship! :)

    I have edited your post as it contained a suicide date which is not allowed, please read the guidelines before making your next post.

    I hope you share more with us later on and know that you are not alone in this and we will struggle through with you.
  3. Matteo

    Matteo Member

    Hi Molly, I'm really sorry to hear about your struggles. Please don't give up hope, it may be a long road but I have faith that things will get better for all of us. Death is so certain, please don't give up potential future happiness because of how you're feeling right now. Is it possible that you could go and talk with a specialist about how you have been feeling?
  4. Molly139

    Molly139 New Member


    Thanks for responding.... I'm on my fifth psych and third counselor. I haven't found much help from any person or med.... The venture in finding help has spanned over a min of 15 years. Shrinks simply write. My newest dr stinks. He doesn't listen to me at all... Thinks his s$:#%^€£ don't stink. I'm already out to find someone new. I may go back to my gp for med purposes and work more with counselor, maybe a new one.. I'm not very good at expressing my feelings. I've told them without much progress.

    I'm a member of a twelve step program, where I get most of my support from... Many are in the same boat as I so I don't feel out of place... However it still doesn't meet the needs of making me feel better.

    I just don't see a reason as why I should fight to continue. And a fight it will be for sure. Unfortunately I've dug myself a deep whole financially that will require me to go bankrupt. I will lose my house as I've lost my job and have no income to save the house through a chapter 13. I've got to liquidate the business, liquidate the houses, get everything together for bankruptcy, find a lawyer, continue my case for SSI disability, yeah, I can't work do to medical issues, SSI won't allow for me to stay in house, he'll I don't know where I'd go with SSI.. The list continues on.

    I have such an uphill battle of problems to overcome, it's so overbearing to even type about it here. I just don't have the umph.

    Maybe later I'll try to break down my situation further, have a feeling I'lll need to write in the rant section.

    Thanks for reading
  5. JmpMster

    JmpMster Have a question? Message Me Staff Member Forum Owner ADMIN

    It certainly is a list of issues that would cause a huge amount of stress and are cause for disappointment. When health changes and disability becomes the source of income it is not at all easy - a fact I know all too well having seen my income and savings shrink dramatically after years of hard work. If you put things into perspective though there are a lot of people that rent as opposed to own a home and it is not a"bad thing" - in fact if on a fixed income like disability it protects you from huge expenses that sometimes occur like replacing roof or furnace/HVAC - things that cost thousands and thousands of $ and the money is not there on a fixed income to cover them too often so renting typically becomes a reality anyway. Further, home ownership disqualifies you from many programs that will make life a lot easier with the drastically reduced income so the loss of the house hurts on a personal or emotional level but on a logical level is likely a better situation for you.

    Bankruptcy has no real meaning if you are on such a small income - it is the only way to erase debts that due to a health issue not your fault you cannot pay. That is why the law exists- to protect you from things when something like this happens and I am glad you are able to take advantage of it as opposed to having to duck calls from collectors for the next years. For bankruptcy there are a lot of charitable groups that will help with legal counsel, for SSI the attorneys work on a contingency so there is no out of pocket costs.With the brief description of the number of pdocs and counselors it would seem there is adequate medical records for the claim. All of this is an emotional blow of course, but do not let an emotional response end your life. Emotions and feelings are like the weather- they change over time and seasons. Use your energy and time for looking for an apartment and for resources or places to get the resources to move and prepare. Sell as much as possible yourself prior to filing for BK to get cash to cover expenses in the mean time- basically liquidate as much as you can yourself to cover day to day expenses and to keep a small cash reserve prior to the filing when all will be taken by the court.
  6. imars27

    imars27 Member

    Thanks for helping him.God bless u !
  7. Molly139

    Molly139 New Member

    Hi all,

    Happy to check in... Each day feels a little better. Thank you jump master for responding... After writing it really helped for me to realize I can handle what has been given to me...just need to take it slow... Sometimes a minute at a time. To all vets, THANK YOU FOR YOUR SERVICE!!!!!!
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