Discussion in 'I Have a Question...' started by *sparkles*, Apr 15, 2010.

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  1. *sparkles*

    *sparkles* Guest


    i went on leave as a moderator and a member for 8 weeks to prepare for my wedding and to stop worrying about the forum 24/7 whilst i was preparing for the wedding. although in many ways its been a positive experience for me so far, im feeling like i could do with the support at the moment :s

    im really worried, really stressed and scared. i dont like socialising with and mixing with people irl. it panics me. it scares me. it makes me hyperventilate and shake.

    im really worried that the wedding is going to bring the worst out in me. all those people. me in a dress - yes - a DRESS... i live in trousers, t-shirt and boots.

    im going to be ridiculed by the people there. they will laugh at me. they will make me feel silly. i will look fat. they wont 'get' me - im scared of being an alien at my own wedding. what the heck do i do if they make me feel panicked?

    what do i do here? :unsure:
  2. suzy

    suzy Well-Known Member

    how about this

    why don't you take it slower at the moment (say today) and give yourself more time to do things and step out of the fast pace you're under at the moment

    i know its huge advice but you seem to be in need of something slower and with less thought

    of course, you do need to return here temporarily so i am sure you can get reactivated

    but i wanted to send advice right away to get you further while you are in the forum

    i "do" know what i am speaking of but this is your problem today and i wish to help
  3. Hazel

    Hazel SF & Antiquitie's Friend Staff Alumni

    Ellie, you are NOT getting married in trousers, t-shirt and boots!!!
    You are going to look beautiful, no one will laugh at you. This is pre wedding nerves talking, you are going to be fine! :hug:
  4. WildCherry

    WildCherry Staff Member ADMIN

    I know someone that got married in trousers and a t-shirt... no boots though. :p

    Seriously though, I think you'll be okay. The people won't be laughing at you. They'll be there to watch you get married, to celebrate one of the best days of your life with you.

  5. cownes

    cownes Well-Known Member

    Ellie, you will look stunnig, even if u did get married in trousers and boots, enjoy your day, as that is what it is YOURS, you and ur future husband, its a day for you 2 to cherish for the rest of your lives. :hug: i hope things are going ok
  6. lightbeam

    lightbeam Antiquities Friend


    You will do just fine, just you see.
  7. Acy

    Acy Mama Bear - TLC, Common Sense Staff Member Safety & Support

    Heya, no one will ridicule you or laugh at you. Nor will you look fat. Even if you're not accustomed to wearing dresses, you'll look stunning and feel lovely in your wedding dress. It's your wedding day so you won't be an alien. Apart from you and your fiancé, everyone else is a "guest" who is there to share your celebration and happiness. (That makes "them" the aliens. :) )

    Most brides have some "jitters" about being on display on their wedding day. If you feel a bit shaky, take deep, slow breaths and look into your partner's eyes for strength and stability - that's part of why you're getting married - to have each other as supports. Smile a lot to let the world know how wonderfully happy you are. And most importantly, enjoy your special day!

    I wish you and your fiancé lots of love and happiness always.
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