I follow you Warm Hands, that's a great post which I agree with completely.
Pity isn't what I want when I reach out here- it is patronising and has little theraputic value. When people reply to me I doubt their pity me, they are trying to make me feel less alone. For some people it can take a lot of courage especially if they aren't used to dealing with difficult feelings and/or suffer social anxiety or fear persecution/ridicule for having difficult feelings. Many people self medicate/form compulsions/eating disorders to cope and silence, not only from their own histories/circumstances, but because others around have made them feel ashamed for having such feelings and expressing them. Some might even have difficulties their own helplessness which then goes to self hate and externalistion or bullying: "Suck it up, get on with your life. You're so disgusting, everyone suffers." etc These are all ways to ignore/escape, just like self destructive behaviour, rather than face difficult problems within someone as well as the people around them.
I don't see these as 'faults' Krem; if someone had an injury would screaming that injury, reaching out for support, or using any personal resource out there for expression/connection - including this forum, be called a fault?