Self sabotage

Discussion in 'Rants, Musings and Ideas' started by Yoyogirl86, May 17, 2016.

  1. Yoyogirl86

    Yoyogirl86 Well-Known Member

    Hi All

    Why is everything i do in my life i keep self sabotaging myself? For example, on Friday my parents went holiday and my dog got ill again and then i blamed myself and was really anxious and completely forgot about everything i look forward to during the week, the art group, job seeking group, wasn't that interested in things and then stopped doing revision, my bike and now i have relapsed from the binge eating. its like i hate myself too much and wont let myself be happy.

    Normally i stick to three workouts a week and this week, i have have only managed one and thats on Tuesday.

    That is not good enough i my opinion.

    *Sargent Major in my head is now screaming and shouting at head like in the film a beautiful mind.
     
  2. Rockclimbinggirl

    Rockclimbinggirl SF climber Staff Member Safety & Support

    I'm not sure why. I think it's because if we cannot destruct ourselves in one way, we will find another way.
     
  3. MisterBGone

    MisterBGone Well-Known Member

    Try not to think that way. Don't be so hard on yourself. If you make a mistake, it's okay... When you beat yourself up over every last detail (no matter how relevant it may seem), you fuel the subconscious desire to screw up. It's like a high, or low, in that you almost feel compelled to pursue it. But if you give each of these small things less emphasis, then the snowball effect when combined is greatly minimized. So, best thing I can say, do your best not to look at every-thing like that.
     
  4. ThePhantomLady

    ThePhantomLady Safety and Support SF Supporter

    It is okay to make mistakes sometimes, you don't need to be 100% all the time, no one is.

    Do you think you could find a way of physically highlighting the good things? Could you have a list on you, somewhere you are likely to look?
    I know this is not the same, but my therapist wondered why I wasn't using my 'butterfly hug' when upset... somehow I think it's a bit of self-sabotage... we agreed I added a butterfly to the grocery list on my phone... which I always look at when opening it up, and have to skip past to get to my music...

    Could you do something similar somehow?
     
  5. Yoyogirl86

    Yoyogirl86 Well-Known Member

    Still struggling with weird thoughts and feelings and people inside my own head and its really affecting day to life. i have tried the "distract" method thousands times and nothing seems to get rid of it. i have tried everything from writing, using forums, chatting online, reading a book, doing revision, watching netflix and colouring and nothing seems to help.