my husband and i have been together for 23 years this year, married for 16 years. we always had a very healthy sex life and never had any problems even when the kids come along nothing changed. nearly 4 years ago now he had a serious road accident and suffered a fractured pelvis and dislocated hip. he was bed bound for 3 weeks and discharged home to recuperate. this was slow and painful for him. he got back on his feet and returned to work 3 months later. he had an accident at work 9 months later and suffered a repeat of the original break. he saw a consultant and he said he would do a full hip replacement, which he got done almost a year later. he suffers a lot of pain and due to other health issues he is not well a lot of the time. our sex life has suffered immensely and i miss it a lot. we used to cuddle a lot too but even that has stopped due to him finding most sitting or lying positions painful. i feel we have grown apart so much and feel all we have left to keep us together is the kids, dont get me wrong i believe in the whole 'in sickness and in health' thing but i dont feel the same about our relationship. i feel very selfish thinking this way and i know hes in terrible pain but feel its a very hard subject to talk with him about.