What do you think is a "normal" sex drive for a 30 something male? I wish i thought about it a little less than I do. I really enjoy hugging, kissing etc, but nearly always find myself actively pushing my g/f to the next step. I care about her, and obviously im very attracted to her physically, her skin is silky smooth, and I only have to touch her for a short period of time before that desire kicks in. She doesnt have the same drive as me, and lately a couple things she has said makes me wonder if im becoming obsessed with the physical, at the cost of other things in our relationship. I dont want to be that way. Maybe im making up for many years of a living a VERY frugal sex life. Why cant we just hug, kiss and enjoy the warmth of our bodies coming together without going to the next step.