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sex is all that matters

Discussion in 'Rants, Musings and Ideas' started by endlessskies58, Mar 6, 2009.

  1. endlessskies58

    endlessskies58 Well-Known Member

    sorry... but i need to express some anger...

    i HATE boys...

    i don't even feel like men exist...

    maybe they did a long time ago... but not now... not in this society...

    i hate how visual the male gender is... sometimes... i feel like if i were the most beautiful woman in the world then i would never have to worry about a guy leaving me for another woman or cheating...

    and yet i know that isn't true because guys are not only very visual... but they need their ego fix... the more women the better...

    who cares if you have a beautiful woman... the more women you've had sex with the better... once you've had her she doesn't matter because the game to obtain her is over...

    now... i know women aren't perfect when it comes to this either but they are in no way as bad as guys...

    i think guys are worse because of what society imposes on them as what is masculine... how they should act... what they should care about...

    but how did it get to this?...

    i hate this hook up culture we have now... and i hate how as women we are supposed to enjoy it just the same as men or else we are prudes... we are sexy and desirable if we flaunt our sex... dress s***ty and abide to what men like... as long as it gets us attention, who cares right? i guess its an emotional attachment in some sense... maybe the guy will start liking us...

    what ever happened to loving one person?... what is so scary about committing... not even marriage... just committing... i feel like all we value is sex... love is just an accessory to it... a fun thing to go along with the pleasure...

    then its on to the next person(the next fix and addiction) once we get bored and the excitement of the initial chemicals are gone...

    love is just like a drug... its a fix... and once that fix has used up its initial value and you start to see the person as a REAL person... then you leave them...

    i really don't believe in everlasting love between two partners... maybe a parent and a child or a friend with a friend... but lovers are only a temporary thing...

    i really don't think i want to deal with romantic love ever again... its made such a fool out of me...
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  2. SpencerA

    SpencerA Well-Known Member

  3. shades

    shades Staff Alumni

    I agree with almost everything you say and I'm male. The only statement I'd like to include is that I'm not like that at all and there are many others who aren't either. You should have seen the post by the guy who wanted to know if there were any women or girls who liked romantic, sensitive guys. Many said they did not! That they liked to be dominated, etc...It's just a matter of perspective. Our society, unfortunately is very superficial...yes, it is mostly male dominated, which isn't fair or right. I find it hard to believe that women only got the right to vote in the U.S. in the early 1900's. It's nuts and they've been fighting for every inch of ground since. We just passed a law under President Obama giving women the right to sue their employers for unfair pay practices. As a man, I can tell you that I hate the unfair and macho attitudes of men in general, even though I am heterosexual.
    I have an acquaintance, I don't consider him a friend, who's this macho "A" type personality who thinks he's gods gift to women. He's disgusting. Unfortunately, through family ties I have to associate with him. Anyway, just know that not all men are like what you describe. And by the way, although the avatar I chose looks cool, it's not who I am; just confident, the way I wish I could be, but I never have and never will treat a woman as an inferior or as a strictly sexual interest. I would want to share my feelings and have her share hers and have an exchange of ideas. Of course I'm older than many at this site; maybe the younger guys can take some advice from one who has been around awhile.
  4. xan

    xan Chat Buddy

    I agree.. I hate the hookup culture and the pressure as a guy to feel like I need to have slept with lots of women or I'm somehow lacking :(
  5. Mightbehere

    Mightbehere Well-Known Member

    I'm a guy and I just want to find someone nice...:sad:
  6. SadPandaBear

    SadPandaBear Well-Known Member

    Im a female.. and I couldnt read your entire post because I have been there before.... worse even then where ever it is you find yourself now.

    I still cant hope... and I still hate.

    I try not to, but its hard.

    I cant let myself think about it... because.... then I would totally give up. Everything.

    just know I understand.
  7. gentlelady

    gentlelady Staff Alumni

    I can also agree that it seems the majority of the males in our society fall into this category. It is sad that we are all, males and females alike, pressured into these types of behaviors. I would like to know why sex is soo important.
  8. SadPandaBear

    SadPandaBear Well-Known Member

    sigh this topic reminds me of all the reasons why i hate life..... I wish I had the strength to face these issues.. but I dont.... and I suffer for it,....
  9. LetItGo

    LetItGo Staff Alumni

    Theres no off switch anymore. I think thats a problem for men.

    When i was a teenager, if you wanted porn you had to go to a newsagent and buy a mag or rent a video. Both options highly embarrassing for the guy in question, so for most guys there exposure to sex was through movies on a very random basis. That was about it.

    You had sex in movies, tv shows, music to a degree, much like you do now, but you had to sit there and wait for it.

    Now you have internet porn on demand, 24 x 7, and you still have the magazine/video options, and now you can get videos streamed, delivered to your door, or via bit torrent. People swap porn links in email, via instant messenger...Its just so damn easy to watch the stuff now. You can literally wrap yourself up in sex all day, every day if you want too, even at work for some people.

    What does that do to the male psyche? to men at large? I wonder if all that extra stimulation means the pressure on men to sleep with lots of women is even greater now than it was when i was younger. The big issue for me growing up was losing my virginity, to whom and at what age. A running tally of the women you had slept wasnt something guys talked about all that often tbh.

    Now the pressure to sleep with women is that much greater, probably expected to lose your virginity at an even younger age. I reckon some of that applies to young girls as well.

    Men have always been up for it, whenever and however, since the cavemen days. I think its sheer volume of imagery and discussion surrounding the topic thats really pushed this "hook up" culture.

    In terms of love. Agree with a lot of whats been said. I think it plays both ways though. Once the excitement has gone, we often move on. I think men are quicker of the mark when it comes to that though, certainly quicker to have an affair. Is that a good thing? Well you have to ask yourself - "Is it right to say in a relationship without passion?". And perhaps its not some magnificent romance anymore, the days of going at it like rabbits has long sinced past, but you still have your moments? Would you still hang around then? Think the answer to that question will vary from person to person.

    Sex and relationships, so damn complicated, always has been, always will be.
  10. GS9

    GS9 General


    Not all men are like that
  11. jameslyons

    jameslyons Well-Known Member

    But what about the men who date?
  12. Stranger1

    Stranger1 Forum Buddy & Antiquities Friend

    We are not all like that. I for one have always looked for the right woman to settle down with and always got cheated on..Women are just as bad as men when it comes to hooking up..I was always told I was boring because all I did was work fifteen hours aday, come home and have one or two drinks to unwind. My exs's were always wanting to go to the bars, so I would trust them and tell them to enjoy themselves..They would eventually start cheating on me..All I ever wanted out of life was a wife to love, children, a good job, a house, and money to be able to vacation for a week to help keep those bonds strong..I am a very sensitive and trusting individual and not afraid to show it..I have never been the macho man..or dicussed my sex life with others..So please don't stereotype all males in that category!!
  13. lonelymortal

    lonelymortal Well-Known Member

    You can blame western culture. Anyways i'm a man and i'm not only interested in sex. I'd love a friendly woman to talk to in real life.
  14. fromthatshow

    fromthatshow Staff Alumni SF Supporter

    Cuddling is much more fun for me than sex, I'm a guy.
  15. Rosenrot

    Rosenrot Forum Buddy

    It's all true what you just said.

    It's a fucking shame how sex is stereotyped in this society as a must have for men. I personally don't see the big fucking deal about it, and quite honestly if I were to die a virgin I wouldn't feel any less of a human at all. It really doesn't matter.

    People with egos generally suck.
  16. Zoe

    Zoe Well-Known Member

    ^ Everyone has an ego, even you :smile:

    The OP is right - with all of it.
  17. The_8th_Wonder

    The_8th_Wonder senior Member

    Two words

    Social influences and...
    human nature

    Can't believe I'm saying this but I have to agree with you... even though I wouldn't know from personal experience.
  18. Rosenrot

    Rosenrot Forum Buddy

    I suppose you're right, I should rephrase it, People who let their egos get the best of themselves and others generally suck.
  19. Anime-Zodiac

    Anime-Zodiac Well-Known Member

    Not everyone has ego's and in some cases you could say it is acquired through an event or experience.
  20. fromthatshow

    fromthatshow Staff Alumni SF Supporter

    Ego is self. Everyone has a self. That self can be depressed, happy, whatever. How could you be alive without a self? Your ego can most certainly be damaged, as are most of ours here, but we still have one. And it needs attention and love :heart: