Hi Everyone, I have never described in detail to anyone how my grandfather sexually abused me, always feeling like as long as the therapist knows I was abused that is sufficient to address the seemingly endless string of repercussions the abuse has has and is having on my life. Yesterday when I was in my counseling appointment, my counselor asked if I had "ever talked to anyone about the abuse". Now, he knows I was abused, he knows I have been in counseling, and he knows that I have dealt in counseling with previous counselors some of the effects of the abuse on me, such as cutting and eating disorders but I told him that, no, I have never described the actual abuse. This seems to be something he thinks would be helpful for me but I feel like no one needs to hear that stuff. Plus even just thinking about the actual times rather than just the general things that happened, I go into a dissociative state and find I think/feel it in almost real time....it is very weird and I feel like he (my counselor) doesn't need to know those details. What is everyone else's thoughts and experiences? Have you, if you were abused, described the actual abuse in detail to anyone? What was that like for you? How did it impact your counseling, if you did it in counseling? Thank you!