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Shame

Discussion in 'Appearance and Body Image' started by Cagla, Jan 23, 2018.

  1. Cagla

    Cagla Well-Known Member

    I feel ashamed around people. I cannot talk or start a conversation. When someone ask something I can't look at his her face in the eye. Always turning my eyes any other place. I am ashamed of myself .
     
  2. Petal

    Petal SF dreamer Staff Member Safety & Support SF Supporter

    May I ask why you are ashamed of yourself ? There has got to be background reasons as to why. Don't feel ashamed, you don't owe anyone a thing x
     
  3. Reaver

    Reaver Well-Known Member

    I'm like this as well and I don't really know why. Sometimes I can't even start conversations with people I have been good friends with for years and it seems like I have to really push myself to get anywhere near being able to try. Same for looking at people, as I find it uncomfortable even when it's my family. It does feel a bit shameful.

    I still haven't figured out how to get better at doing any of it, so I can't offer any advice, but I thought I'd let you know that you're not alone in feeling this way. I apologise in advance if it's not something that makes you feel any better.
     
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  4. Cagla

    Cagla Well-Known Member

    my appearance. generally I don't want this person to look at my face.
     
  5. Cagla

    Cagla Well-Known Member

    thank you ,knowing that you are not alone gives relief...
     
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  6. Petal

    Petal SF dreamer Staff Member Safety & Support SF Supporter

    Oh, I can totally relate. I dunno who I am when I stand in front of a mirror, it is like I don't recognise myself.

    Do you think therapy could help with the way you feel, you are very far from alone in these thoughts. I hope you start to love you or you, best wishes :)
     
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  7. Cagla

    Cagla Well-Known Member

    I am in a small village. I don't think I can find a therapist here...
     
  8. Petal

    Petal SF dreamer Staff Member Safety & Support SF Supporter

    How rural are you, how hard is it to get to the next city/town? Hopefully you can find one where you are but I'm like you, from a small village, I get my therapy in the city.
     
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  9. Cagla

    Cagla Well-Known Member

    I live with my family. And they don't allow me..
     
  10. Petal

    Petal SF dreamer Staff Member Safety & Support SF Supporter

    If your profile is right and you are 23 you do not need their permission, you don't need them involved at all. It will be confidential between you and the therapist.
     
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  11. Cagla

    Cagla Well-Known Member

    it's true. I am 23. But my family is very strict. Even my mother doesn't know I have this anxiety problem. She will scold me if I tell..Thanks..
     
  12. Petal

    Petal SF dreamer Staff Member Safety & Support SF Supporter

    I understand, hopefully we can help you here, sounds like you are close to your family in other ways.

    Hope you keep talking to us here, we could provide an help with the support you need :)
     
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