This is not an emotionally distressing life-stopping issue. This is just a personal problem that has been on my mind that I'd like some advice with. I've been hanging out with a girl lately. Yesterday, I discussed with her that I feel somewhat insecure because no girl had ever told me that I was attractive, and because I had never even had my first kiss with a girl. She responded by telling me that she thought I was really cute, and asked me if I'd like to have my first kiss with her. I said yes, and we kissed. (I should mention that it wasn't a short peck on the lips - she made out with me really passionately and let me touch her chest. Afterward, we cuddled and held one another for a while, then made out again even harder than the first time.) After a while, she stopped kissing me, and told me, "I want to make something clear...even though I really like you, I don't want to be anyone's girlfriend. I've always tried to avoid that title." I told her that I understood her clearly, and we went back to kissing. We eventually stopped because our friend came over and we went out to see a show. When she drove me back to my place, I thanked her for the kissing. She told me not to worry about it, and gave me another passionate kiss goodbye. As someone who went 6 years psychologically convincing himself that no girl would ever find him attractive, I am in heaven now that a girl actually told me I was cute. As someone who believed that no girl would ever want to do anything with me, I am ecstatic that this girl would make out with me so passionately (it really helps that I find her extremely attractive, the most attractive girl I've seen at college.) My mind is blown because a girl who I viewed as an unobtainable goddess actually wanted to make out with me. My self-pitying and underconfident mindset has been flushed away, and now I feel proud of myself and filled with confidence. I feel like everything will be okay. I feel like there is a chance that I WILL be able to meet a wonderful girl and enter a relationship. I really like this girl - I've had a crush on her for months. I never thought that she would find me worthy enough to experience such a passionate make-out session with her. I'm thankful and I'm grateful and I'm bubbling over with appreciation for her - but, I guess, there is one problem. I really like her, she told me that she really likes me, and we had a hot make-out session; you'd think that we'd both be ready for a relationship with one another, but then she said that line that I just can't get out of my head: "I don't want to be anyone's girlfriend. I've always tried to avoid that title." Does that mean she just wants to be 'friends with benefits'? Does it mean that she wants to casually make out and have sex with guys, and doesn't want to commit to a single guy? If she "really likes" me, then how can she not want to be with me? I don't understand. To make something perfectly clear, I appreciate the experience she gave me very much, and I don't want to reward her with creepy stalker-like possessive obsession. I don't want to become a problem for her. Years from now, I don't want her to tell tales of the creepy guy who got too attached to her. I want her to look fondly on me. I'm even fine if she only wants to be friends. What I don't get is...how can you "really like" someone, but not want them to be yours? Wouldn't she have just said "let's stay friends but keep making out" if she wanted to make it clear she only wanted to be friends with benefits?