Discussion in 'Soap Box' started by boo, Mar 4, 2010.
Should we bring the "Sexual Banter" room back to the chat? I know you wanna...
no as it could offend. Y would u want to anyway?
I believe the majority of members here are easily hurt or offended by sexual banter because of their unfortunately common experience of sexual abuse and in addition a rampant general low sense of self regard among members.
There are also youngsters here under the age of consent though realistically in this age of the internet not nearly as ridiculously naive as I was at their tender age.
You mean I wouldn't have to pretend that I'm not a total perv?!
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What's the purpose of a porn chat room on a forum of suicidal and depressed people? If you want porn, just go to a porn web site or something.
Thats a pretty good point plus it could definetly trigger people here and not everyone here is 18 or 21 (depending on where you live).
no. There's enough sexual banter in my internal monologues as it is.
thats the whole reason for it having its own room. RIGHT?
shit ive been here a long time.. i used to go into the chat room when i first came here, but for the most part it was about conversing with people about whats troubling them. It's changed alot, with so much more "positive" chatter, which I guess is awesome. Not for me though, I usually never feel happy so it's annoying for me so I stay away. But now a sex banter room? Interesting little step forward.
Personally I interact with my environment alot, so, im not going to voice anything about myself when their is a room above the one im in that says sex banter or clowning around or whatever. It sets a very awkward atmosphere for me. But I don't go in there anymore, and it's not for primarily for helping people anymore is it.
Boo, there was a sexual Banter room? You have got to be kidding me. Hell NO!
No, it went away in around 2007/8, and it isn't coming back
Exactly!!!!! Often found myself asking why do we have a chat that is filled with cliquey,inane conversations in a suicide forum when you cant talk about being suicidal??? You want cliquey go to Cliques-R-Us.com (made that up ok). Hell, I think I'd prefer the sexual banter over all the made up, pretend we're all doing just fine chat we have now. Most of the convo in sexual banter would be made up too but atleast not as depressing.
Just don't go to that room then.
I say sure!
Why don't you start with a sexual banter thread and see how long that lasts. I mean hey, by your justification, if it offends people, they should just stay away from it.
On the other hand, the mere attention that comes with that topic is very out of place for a suicide forum. It's easy to say just don't go in there, but like I said earlier, if it's in the same list as a triggering room, it's going to take away from the seriousness of that triggering room.
Entrance Lobby, Quiet Place, Main chat, Staff Room, Sexual Banter, Triggering Subjects
Does something stick out ??
Voted no. Anything with the term "sexual" is too easily abused. Too many young people come here. And there're lots of adults who haven't grown up either.
So you have decided to pinpoint "cliques" out of a questioned sexual banter room. As everyone does when they have no other argument but want to be heard.
Why do you and so many other people assume that everybody in chat has to be depressed and willing to participate in a suicidal discussion. Can there not be room for happiness and laughter in a depressed persons life?
For goodness sake its a chat room, there are no rules on what you can say there are rules on what you cant see. Being happy is allowed so why dont you realise this and allow it with out bringing up the so called "cliquey, inane conversations" even mods have specifed at times that chat isnt always for depressing/suicidal conversations its for light hearted topics to allow people the freedom to forget their pain and distract themselves
Yes there are rooms for more in-depth perhaps triggering topics, but i dont see why you think everyone should have to participate in suicide discussions. Yet again i fall back to the point that not everybody on SF is suicidal, some people are here for the companionship and understanding on what its like to lose somebody.
That said a sexual banter room would only cause more problems in chat and on the forums.
I think it's just alot different now bubble. When I was first here, if you went into the chat, you'd find moderate positive conversations, but the majority of people who went in there wanted to talk or needed to talk about their issues. You could go into the main chat and talk about really sensitive topics, openly.
Id feel like a fucking asshole if I did that now. I don't want to make people sad, and everyone in there seems to be in a happy mood.
Im not complaining about the change of this chat here, its how it goes. But its not the chat I remember, which maybe is good? Ive given up talking to people anyhow :yay: