Hi all, I'm an ex-member of this very forum and I remain a very fragile person to this day. I was previously here, on the edge of doing something pretty stupid, because I was so excruciatingly lonely. Every single turn I made to try and find someone turned out to be a disaster and only brought me closer to doing the stupid thing. One evening I went to a friend's birthday party - although I very nearly didn't - and met this girl who seemed to be into me. We've been together now for 3yrs and 6 months. There have been many, many occasions where I have felt that she's only been with me because I'm convenient and that she's just using me. I have always tried my hardest to brush these feelings aside under the category of 'being your normal paranoid self'. Over the past 3.5years I have almost completely wiped her debts off as well as being the sole bread-winner for the past 18 months. I have now essentially run out of money - we are living paycheque to paycheque with virtually no margin for error or saving, and she has just started back at Uni. Six months ago we got married. This last few weeks she has been behaving very strangely - having a full on texting marathon with an old friend (who she recently discovered is now (temporarily) living in the same town as us) and being really defensive and guarded about it all. Curiosity got the better of me and I read through the texting tennis match on her phone (actually even took a backup of it encase she decided to delete them later on). It would seem that they were planning on meeting up at some point for one purpose only: sex. She didn't make the agreed date as she was in hospital at the time, and he will be leaving town next week. Should I tell her that I've been reading her text messages and I know what she was planning? Or should I just leave well alone since nothing actually happened, and just let bygones be bygones?