Wow! I can’t believe what an amazing, and most excellent attitude you have here on this (& a great “handle” on, as well, just in terms of the analysis, of the situation...) I agree wholeheartedly—I think that each situation you experience. You learn something from. Even the bad ones (& it’s the old saying that, “sometimes the bad, teach us more than the good!”). :^) see, I’ll give you an example of what I mean from this morning - or earlier... one of my last positions (I say it like this to I guess make it sound more important than it actually is! Ha..
) on paper -should have been as close to perfect as it could get! Everything about it, from a job-description perspective to the viewpoints from those in charge of, or doing the hiring (which included one of the major players from a power structure standpoint: I believe she sat #3 at that point; under only ownership, as she in essence also ran the company..). But everything basically went ka-boom!! Once I’d started. And thus was due to the way in which they philosophically ran their company, and specifically treated their employees. In essence, making decisions that suited or served best them selves, and impacted rather unfairly (& that’s putting it in the best possible light!), the employees, with the clients or residents / patients we served being impacted as well, or included in this, just due to being “innocent bystanders!” Now, by the time I’d realized just how disastrous this place was - it was already too late. . . Because at that point I’d gotten to know some of these people we were charged with caring for; & so had begun to feel badly for them, getting such inadequate treatment (at least by my professional standards, and such)- now, the funny thing is, is that I was leaving a rock solid company that had an even more stellar reputation (though the difference being that it was deserved, or earned). However, almost everything about it was the exact opposite of this on paper. Now the only problem with this setup was that I got stationed, or placed at a residents where the staff quite literally broke all the rules (& this particular place had one of the highest reputations in the massive company, with the employee of the year coming from there the previous year - which, just from a sheer numbers point, is like a one in a million shot or chance - never mind the politics that may or may not have been involved!)
but with staff so well tenured, and in my eyes both a management and administrative set, “in on it” — or if not so (at least aware of what was going on, and then being passive about it, so as to let it continue...) now they never got burned when I was there. I did here however, that they did shortly after I left (which comes as no surprise as one of the new members there told me directly that he didn’t trust my boss, and that he only wanted, at that moment in time, to talk to me - the low man on the totem pole. . . I did what I could to ease his conscience on both sides, in fact, even trying to delicately but abruptly or bluntly - that is frankly tell him how he’s viewed (so as to give him the opportunity to correct said inconsistencies or mistakes in judgement). And what I saw from him surprised me. Sheer and unadulterated “defensiveness!” Instead of tryin to listen and understand where the miscommunication had originated or come from. He instead went on the offensive, and began to belittle and put him down (which was even more surprising to me given how even keeled or level headed he normally was). But maybe he felt caught in something that he was at fault of, or in, at least in part - and so that was his way to deal with, or handle it. In terms of his defense mechanism. I should also note that he was best friends from high school with the Human Resources director! It’s a small world, and so he may have had a leg up in his hire, who knows or cares. But basically what all the employees did there but me (with one or two rare exceptions), was to clock one another in and out with their numbers. And so they could be on the clock and getting paid. While resting comfortably in their own beds. Or heading out of town for the weekend, kind of a thing... And the next job, the first I’d spoken of, made this one look innocent by comparison. In every way, shape or form! Sorry to ramble there. Some of the most satisfying jobs I’ve held from the point of which you seem to be encountering significant struggle, at the ones which on paper - could be argued, were “beneath me.” Now nothing in fact is actually that - but based on qualifications and resume, things like that I’ve definitely been told in quite a few interviews that I was an overqualified candidate, and with a rather ‘atypical,’ resume. But anyway, mostly this had to do not so much with the job, or it’s description; but rather the prior (I worked with, and for). That can make all the difference in the work right there. If either one is exceptional, and all you can ask for is that the other is acceptable, then you’ve got a great shot at being happy. Which is more than you can probably say now. It’s kind of the “act,” of work that’s the most important, in some cases. Whereas what you’re actually doing, may come or be secondary- in nature!
good luck, sorry to ramble and babble, but it’s what I do best (or worst!) it seems... & yeah, you’re place of business or employment sounds like an epic nightmare - no offense! Funny how people can get away with it, but they will get away with what(ever) they can!